Don't BE The Victim Take back your power and get off (or avoid) what relationship counselor, TED talker and author Dina McMillan calls 'the hamster wheel' of abusive relationships. Recognize you now have choices, and resolve to make more informed ones. If more women stood up to toxic masculinity and refused them entry into their lives, or booted them out early, abusive men would be forced to shape up or jack off. Every abuser an incel! Dina McMillan's book "But He Says He Loves Me: How to Avoid Being Trapped in a Manipulative Relationship" offers rock-solid advice on how abusive men think and strategize, and how to avoid them. If you read no other book your entire life on abuse and men, read THIS one. McMillan claims she can teach women and young girls to avoid a lifetime of abuse in two hours, and she's not kidding. Dina McMillan's Book Review How To Not Get Abused It really is a lot simpler than most women think. Don't allow these guys into your life in the first place. Don't let them back. The first time he hits you must be the last. Click here to see my advice and education think pieces. May 21 Bitch: When I Was The Abuser (Part II) It takes two for an abusive relationship. Because an abuser can't abuse a person who isn't there. This is Part II. Bitch: When I Was The... May 18 Bitch: When I Was The Abuser (Part I) When I say, 'Don't LET anyone treat you like that,' or 'Don't BE the victim,' I speak from personal experience. As a temporary ex-abuser.... May 8 "Don't Be Like Me"--One Man's Escape From Abuse (Guest Post by Jim McCoy) Acceptance of reality means understanding you were abused. It can happen to men too. It's not funny or cute. And God help us all, it is... Apr 29 What Both Women & Men Can Learn From The Sordid Andrew Huberman Affair(s) He was good at playing women, but he offers further lessons on red flag recognition, as well as a helpful lesson for single men who don't... Apr 13 Some Rape Victims Emerge Stronger, Not Permanently Debilitated There, rape activists. We said it. Some decide NOT to let this ugly event define them. Too bad feminist theory teaches women little of... Apr 6 How I Grew a Pair (Of Labia) And Left An Abusive Marriage: Guest Post Part I Persephone Phoenix shares how women need to follow their own hero cycle. 'You go through hell and you triumph in the end. No one will... How To Not Get Abused BOOKS I RECOMMEND FOR Avoiding Abusive Relationships I've found five stellar resources to help women identify their psychological weaknesses and inoculate themselves against the sort of toxic man who manipulates and abuses, but also to better understand men and thereby become better partners themselves. After all, she may be no walk in the park either. Conflict Is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility, and the Duty of Repair This is the antidote to Generation Snowflake and everything 'woke'! Schulman dives into the modern-day confliation of conflict or disagreement with abuse and explores the way misstating conflict and overstating harm hurts the individuals involved and further divides the society. Read this before you venture onto Facebook or Twitter! More Info Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men A male therapist who works with couples in abusive marriages details the roots and core of entrenched male misogyny and exactly how these men's minds work. Read this and you'll have a far more informed understanding of how you're not likely to ever change him, and how these manipulators can fool even trained psychologists and therapists to believe they've changed when they haven't. I can't recommend this book enough to women in abusive relationships or who want to avoid them. More Info The Game: Penetrating The Secret Society Of Pickup Artists - Neil Strauss (My Review) The best psychological analysis of the female mind and its many weaknesses was written, believe it or not, by a former Pickup Artist. The short bald average-looking author became a pickup artists of southern California's hottest women and details the secrets of his success--not to brag but to show women how easy they are to 'play'. Controversial when it was published in 2004, feminists condemned it for the PUAs' poor treatment of women, but Strauss came to regret his life and shows us the uglier aspects from the men's side too--including a friend who suffered an emotional breakdown and men unprepared for adult, functional relationships once they outgrew the desire to sleep around. There are no better experts in exploiting women's psychology for their advantage than the men in this book, and it's inadvertantly a handbook for women to avoid manipulative sexual predators. Strauss has since given up the PUA lifestyle and is married with children. More Info What Was He Thinking?: The Woman's Guide to a Man's Mind Another great book on how men's mind's work, but in general, not from an abuse standpoint. Sometimes bad relationships happen because the woman is dysfunctional too, or simply doesn't understand that while men's minds work differently, that doesn't necessarily mean wrongly or manipulatively. We just don't process information the same way, and this book teaches women what's good about men's minds. Bechtle is a Christian writer and doctor but I only learned that many years later. You can't tell from this book. More Info Emotional Intelligence 2.0 This is a book for all of us! Did you know only 15% of us are actually emotionally intelligent? Oh, don't look so smug, almost everyone overestimates how EI they actually are! It's also a bit of a workbook too. 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Grow Some Labia? What the heck does that mean? When we want men to ‘man up’ we urge them to ‘grow a pair’ or ‘grow some balls’. Women can’t grow balls, but our labia is what would have become our scrotum if we’d been born male. Grow some labia today, take back your power and don’t be the victim. The future is yours. ABOUT GROW SOME LABIA If you’re as fed up with what passes for modern discourse in the Ignited States of America, Can’tada or Eur-up-my-nose, if you’re as sick of the left’s shit as you are of the right’s, you’ve come to the right place. ​ I’ve been kicked off Medium, Vocal.media and CounterSocial for upsetting transflakes and other wokies. I speak truth to power and they don’t like it. ​ Grow Some Labia encourages us to speak truth to and challenge unlawful, self-appointed authority and political extremism. Here there be facts, science, history, evidence, nuance, and, to put it in the immortal words of Dusty Springfield, looking at both sides now. ​ I also offer my experience to women and others who have experienced or would prefer never to experience an abusive relationship. I had a fantastic mother who drilled it into my head growing up that I should never tolerate an abusive, controlling man in my life. I listened. And I have never been abused by any man. I teach women, men and others the lessons I learned about how to not get abused. ​ So if your mother didn’t tell you these things, I will, and maybe you will never, ever be hit by a man. Or ever again. It’s your choice. ​ As security expert Gavin de Becker stated in his excellent book The Gift of Fear, “The first time he hits you, you’re a victim. The second time, you’re a volunteer.”​​ Contact Me The Beginning... I have my mother to thank, who taught me never to tolerate controlling, abusive men. Rest in peace, Mom! May 21 Bitch: When I Was The Abuser (Part II) It takes two for an abusive relationship. Because an abuser can't abuse a person who isn't there. This is Part II. Bitch: When I Was The... May 18 Bitch: When I Was The Abuser (Part I) When I say, 'Don't LET anyone treat you like that,' or 'Don't BE the victim,' I speak from personal experience. As a temporary ex-abuser.... May 8 "Don't Be Like Me"--One Man's Escape From Abuse (Guest Post by Jim McCoy) Acceptance of reality means understanding you were abused. It can happen to men too. It's not funny or cute. And God help us all, it is... Apr 29 What Both Women & Men Can Learn From The Sordid Andrew Huberman Affair(s) He was good at playing women, but he offers further lessons on red flag recognition, as well as a helpful lesson for single men who don't... Apr 13 Some Rape Victims Emerge Stronger, Not Permanently Debilitated There, rape activists. We said it. Some decide NOT to let this ugly event define them. Too bad feminist theory teaches women little of... Apr 6 How I Grew a Pair (Of Labia) And Left An Abusive Marriage: Guest Post Part I Persephone Phoenix shares how women need to follow their own hero cycle. 'You go through hell and you triumph in the end. No one will... How Not To Be Abused Substack Subscribe to my FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER for all my latest on power feminism, reclaiming your power, and the ongoing culture wars. Visit Substack >> Subscribe to my FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER

"GROW A PAIR" That's what we say to men when we think they're acting weak. "Grow some balls!" So what do we say when women are acting weak? We can't very well tell them to grow some balls. Women can't, of course! Women need to 'grow some labia'! They're the parts of the vagina that would have become the scrotum for the balls had she been born a male instead (and since she didn't, what would have been her balls are her ovaries). ​ But I doubt you came here for a female anatomy lesson. It's time for us to grow some labia and woman up, show more strength, challenge ourselves more. Time to take more charge and responsibility for our lives, and spend less time blaming 'The Patriarchy' or systemic sexism. ​ Those things exist, for sure, but at some point we've got to recognize the buck stops with the woman in the mirror and we need to claim our power (or reclaim it if we gave it away somehow!) So it's time for women everywhere to GROW SOME LABIA! I've written a few blog posts about how we can do exactly that and reclaim our power! Feminism The differences between victim feminism, which sees women as chronically aggrieved and victimized by men and 'The Patriarchy', and power feminism, which is more focused on one's self, achieving and claiming personal power and using it for the betterment of others. Jul 13 A Transman's Valuable, Empathetic Insights For Women On Being A Man Max Wolf Valerio digs into male behavior, values and disconnects with women, with a lot of help from 'T' (Testosterone) There aren’t many... Jul 6 Deja Vu Tradwives: Here We Go Again Putting men first has failed for women over and over again, and tradwifery remakes those same mistakes. But so has feminism. Where's the... Jun 17 Bears vs Strange Men: Which Would *You* Rather Meet In The Woods? A viral TikTok meme demonstrates how skewed female beliefs about strange men have become. What's really worse? Rape or getting eaten... Jun 10 Women & Power: Would We Be As Good Running The World As We Think? Or would we find whole new ways to screw it up? I’ve been on a WKRP in Cincinnati kick lately. A running gag of the late 70s, early 80s... Jun 9 I Want To Slap The Next Lib Who Tells Me To Vote Against Women How dare woke liberals ask me to vote against my own interests to keep Washington Trump-free. I am Woman, hear me tell them all to go to... May 21 Bitch: When I Was The Abuser (Part II) It takes two for an abusive relationship. Because an abuser can't abuse a person who isn't there. This is Part II. Bitch: When I Was The... Feminism Substack Subscribe to my FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER for all my latest on power feminism, reclaiming your power, and the ongoing culture wars. Visit Substack >> Subscribe to my FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER

WELCOME TO MY WEBSITE ABOUT POWER Big Girls Don't Blame The Patriarchy Explore The Blog LABIA POWER! About Me Grow Some Labia! is written by a liberal, feminist writer and social justice critic who teaches women and others how to reclaim their power and avoid partner abuse. She also candidly critiques far-left, progressive/woke/ social justice extremism. It's a place for people who lean left or right, but not so far their brains fall out. GSL's work can be found here and on Substack, Quora. And maybe a few other places. About Me The Latest From My Labia Power! Blog Jul 20 The Hideous Authenticityphobia Of The Left's Body-Modders Your imperfect body was born into 'woke' Original Sin. Abhor yourself and your detestable healthy body because misery loves company. How... Jul 13 A Transman's Valuable, Empathetic Insights For Women On Being A Man Max Wolf Valerio digs into male behavior, values and disconnects with women, with a lot of help from 'T' (Testosterone) There aren’t many... Jul 6 Deja Vu Tradwives: Here We Go Again Putting men first has failed for women over and over again, and tradwifery remakes those same mistakes. But so has feminism. Where's the... Jun 30 What Would A 'Christian' Pride Month Look Like, After June's? What if the Western world was forced to 'celebrate' Christian Supremacy for a month after having shoved Rainbow Supremacy down everyone's... Jun 29 P. Diddy's Misogyny And Misogynoir Are The Red Flags His Victims Ignore What part of Diddy's, rap and hip hop artists' disrespect and hatred for women as objects and 'hos' lead them not to *expect* partner... Jun 22 'Saving Normal' Describes How Trans-Mania Evolved, Before It Started Big Pharma and doctors will literally say and do anything commercialist propaganda tells them to. La plus ça change. Saving Normal: An... Explore The Blog DON'T BE THE VICTIM Take back your power. NOW. It started with abused women who didn't know they could say No to abuse. It morphed into taking back your power from political bullies and haters, including 'social justice warriors'. Don't Be The Victim GROW SOME LABIA "Grow a pair!" That's what we say to men when we think they're acting weak. "Grow some balls!" So what do we say when women are acting weak? We can't very well tell them to grow some balls. Women can't, of course! Women need to 'grow some labia'! Grow Some Labia I also take on the crazies from the right and the left. Subscribe to my FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER