The birth dearth is a fake right-wing crisis. Declining fertility is real; the fix is easy but the U.S. government discourages it Motherhood, as depicted by the pro-natalists. Image by Satya Tiwari from Pixabay When I was six or seven I told my mother before Christmas, “I don’t want dolls anymore. I’d rather have stuffed animals.” Barbie was the exception; she wasn’t a baby doll. I played house and emulated my mother as she took care of my new brother, but there was an early tell I might not be as motherly as I’d been acculturated: When Mom took my brother out in the stroller I followed along, pushing Winnie-the-Pooh in my toy pram. I felt more love for Winnie than I did for baby dolls. I was drawn more to peoples’ pets. Dogs wagged their tail and cats rubbed against your leg. Babies were boring and mostly cried or screamed. When they weren’t screaming they slept. “Come on, don’t you want one of your own?” my cousin’s wife asked me years ago after she had her one and only child. She couldn’t, really couldn’t, understand how any woman could not want a baby of her own. She asked me several times. “Look at this! Look at this child! How can you not want one?” Because I’d rather have one of these! Image by bertin23 from Pixabay “Meh,” I’d answer. Then I’d go back to playing with their dog Martin, who was a thousand more times adorable, and after whom I never had to clean up. Ten years later, I got my tubes tied. I never changed my mind as so many had warned. At thirty-nine, I hadn’t felt even the tiniest pull toward motherhood. I’ve never regretted my decision. I am a free spirit. I was never wired to be a parent. Sexless In The City Declining fertility is real, as are the problems we’ll face without more humans, but it’s not the crisis the right pretends it is. The childfree by choice differ from the childless, who don’t want to be, even as the Western world suffers an epidemic of sexlessness. Predictably, the answer from the tech bros is, not surprisingly, technology, along with a return to good ol’-fashioned unrestricted penising. The sixty-year era of hippie (not-so) free love appears to be drawing to a close, more out of lack of sexual desire than incipient morality. Love and sex aren’t dead, and never will be, but they are on indefinite leave as humanity recalibrates and decides whether it wants to continue propagating. Or even surviving. We work on finding ways to perpetuate humanity without ever having to deal with the messiness of choosing a partner and doing it the traditional way. God help us, anything but having sex with someone else’s body! Billionaires pay strangers to gestate their progeny. A German (of course!) biotechnologist is developing a ‘designer baby’ lab . It’s envisioned from a sincere desire to help infertile couples or women who’ve had their uterus removed to produce their own dual-biological babies just like everyone else. It will also reduce or eliminate C-sections and premature birth, because guess what, the young’uns are grown in a lab ‘womb’ too. This was funnier in 1993. Now it’s just sad. It’s positively Brave New World. Even when allowance is made for human-to-human contact, ‘ polycules’ , fashionable in the ‘effective altruism’ movement, reinvent the male desire for feelings-free polyamory. Like in Brave New World, ‘everyone belongs to everyone else,’ and getting overly-attached to one person is discouraged. Problem is, neither technology nor polyamory has ever truly worked for a species whose ability to procreate and raise good humans is reliant on sexual relations and pair-bonding. Fortunately, not all men are as divorced from their emotions as tech bros. There’s a natural evolution for both sexes to eventually settle down, despite us outliers. Many ‘sow their wild oats’ until one day someone comes along who changes their mind. Like Neil Strauss, who documented the Pick-Up Artist culture he engaged in, and later rejected, in his controversial book The Game. Many women who think they’re ‘too feminist’ to have children find that pull to settle down and propagate as they get older, including old-school radicals from the First Wave. Bernardine Dohrn, ‘70s radical Weatherman leader, found as she approached 30 that she’d rather blow up birthday balloons than government toilets. Sexless gooning, MG/WGTOW-ing, and fake wombs as dangerously untested as sex changes for children are depressingly unnatural and anti-human. The right suggests the solution—a return to marriage and the two-parent family—but doesn’t take it seriously enough. Make America Fertile Again J.D. Vance, America’s only hope if Dozy Don kacks it in office, wants Americans to make more babies, despite having only three himself, when he’s rich enough to support many more. Maybe Usha has put an ‘Out of business’ sign over her cervix. Vance and the rest of the Make America Fertile Again gang don’t seem much interested in why people choose not to have babies . They pay lip service to parenthood while the President denies the affordability crisis, perpetuating parenthood untenability, leaving it to their biggest donors farming their progeny out to strangers on the Internet. Keep America Fatherless! Trump at least is calling for IVF treatments for all, despite his Veep’s historical opposition to it. J.D. and the MAFA gang assume they know what’s best for us non-conformists. They’re hell-bent on forcing parenthood at least on women by making abortion harder to find than a rent-stabilized apartment. They’re frowning at birth control too, especially emergency contraception, encouraging women toward celibacy. It otherwise leaves rape as the only way to perpetuate one’s genes. Fortunately for today’s women, the virgins have no idea where to put their ding-dong. Trigger warning: Sexual violence As always, the subtler reason behind MAFA is returning women to the home and nursery, leaving men as to run the world without a Great Feminization. Or HR. The clear and easy answer to the birth dearth is filling in the blanks with surplus humans from other parts of the world. Like maybe an immigration policy that falls somewhere between throw-open-the-doors and white-South-Africans-only? Rampant xenophobia and consequent government raids in the current administration is only one of many reasons why Americans can’t have affordable produce. Some farmers report 70% of their farm workers are missing which means cutting back on planting and higher supermarket prices. Alien hysteria impacts child care too , as parents and guardians are forced to cut back their hours, leave their jobs, or just return to stay-at-home parenthood. Some day, when the ICE Age is lifted and sane federal administration returns to Washington, we can also ‘lift our lamp, beside the golden door,’ to take in once again the huddled masses yearning to be free. And to raise the kids parents don’t have time for. We will survive Society changes and adapts to every unexpected blow, like most recently the pandemic. It adapted to the Baby Boom explosion and so too, will we, for fewer humans. We’ve survived famines, volcanic eruptions, and countless wars. At eight billion and counting, there’s no birth dearth in the world; simply a misalignment of humans. What we should be worried about is our planet’s finite resources we’re blowing through with every pointless new iPhone release. Scientists argue whether we’re in the midst of an Anthropocene Era-driven sixth mass extinction . We merely haven’t imagined yet how it will look with fewer future adults. We’ll just invite others back, if they trust us not to keep electing senile old men to positions of great responsibility. The ‘birth dearth’ is a course correction. Parenthood is not for the casual and irresponsible, and we are as free as we ever were to not produce other over-consuming humans. We can barrel forward childfree, guilt-free, inventing and creating and traveling and communicating with people who don’t pronounce the third number as free. I feel for kids who weren’t wanted, whose short miserable lives passed before my eyes in newspaper headlines. Like Charlie Wright , a 7-year-old Akron boy in 1987 beaten to death by his hooker mom who had “no desire to be a responsible parent.” Or the starved Turpin kids , or Jeffrey Baldwin , a 5-year-old starved to death by his Ontario grandparents when his mother lost custody. I feel for these kids because I was born into a good family, with parents who loved my brother and I and supported us. They didn’t beat us, rape us, starve us, tell us we were worthless or leave us alone for days at a time. I don’t know what I did to deserve my parents, nor what those dead children did, either. I was luckier, I guess. We don’t have to breed to fill jobs sitting idle. Just as you wouldn’t want a frustrated pro golfer operating on your dad’s heart because his parents insisted No, that’s a silly dream, you’re going to be a doctor, you want only the truly dedicated to raise children. We merely have to get rid of our political xenophobes and reintroduce a sane immigration policy with better screening for criminality and terrorist leanings. How else might we adapt? We could reduce our consumption considerably, and challenge how much we need all our useless stuff. We might find other things to do with fewer running factories. We could farm, return to hand-crafted items, and hang out with our fellow humans more. Do you really need a virtual reality set? What if reality is more fulfilling than fake-Tenerife? There’s no guarantee being a good parent, or a co-parent, will result in a child who makes you proud, but at least you can die knowing you did the best you could, despite your mistakes. We don’t need more humans. We need more humanity—the kind that emanates from our hearts, and allows us to connect as God or evolution designed us, before we allowed the tech bros to offer us a depraved new world. Did you like this post? Do you want to see more? I lean left of center, but not so far my brains fall out. Subscribe to my Substack newsletter  Grow Some Labia  so you never miss a damn thing! There are also Substack  and Spotify  podcasts of more recent articles!

What do you do when you've been illegitimately accused of 'mansplaining'? I gotcher answers right here! “Is he ever going to shut up?” Image by Megan Judge  from Pixabay Men explain things to me, but they never mansplain . Sometimes I ask for information, other times they lecture, uninvited, which is more annoying. Sometimes they simply don’t know when to shut up and I sit there thinking, “He answered the question ten minutes ago.” What are the differences? Some men get accused of mansplaining when all they’ve done is challenge  a woman on incorrect assertions or sloppy assumptions, or who’ve not thought through a particular proposition. A male commenter on Substack recently noted that ‘mansplaining’ is a particularly male dynamic because men simply love to explain stuff!!! Including to each other, regularly. What is actual mansplaining? he wondered, vs ‘regular old ‘splainin’, or just challenging in response? Let’s take a look at the two conversational male misdemeanors, beginning with the two that sometimes drive women to contemplate murder: Mansplaining and lecturing. We’ll end with challenging , which is perfectly acceptable, along with what to do when you’re wrongly accused, and how to avoid oversplainin’. Mansplaining The original, and most concise definition is, ‘when a man explains things to women he should expect she’d already know or that she’s already told him she knows.’ For example: I’m in IT sales. Today, basic, essential computer knowledge is hardly gendered; but when I entered the profession thirty-two years ago, IT was more female-free than a mancave during the Superbowl, and it wasn’t an unreasonable assumption to expect female ignorance, because most women had no interest in computers. When I joined computer BBS’s back in the early ‘90s, I ruled  the mostly younger male cohort because there was maybe one woman for every five (horny) males. The only other female who could compete with the French Wench in a photo-free dialup world where photos would have taken a geological age to load was Blue-Eyed Sex-Kitten. So if a man were to explain computers to me say, in 1997, I might say, “Oh I know this already, I’m in IT.” He’s not mansplaining unless he continues to explain things I just said are my literal profession. Mansplaining started when the God of All Mansplainers kept explaining a book he’d just read to its author, whose girl friend told him this several times,  ergo, that she knew exactly what it was about. He wasn’t sharing his insight, he was explaining it to the author. That’s it. THAT is the definition of mansplaining. When a woman tells you she already knows about something—skip to the point. If you can’t tell from looking at her that she already knows this stuff (like, when I wasn’t wearing my company-branded uniform), then it’s not mansplaining. Men mansplain mansplaining! Men mansplain mansplaining! There are other types of ‘splaining too. Whitesplaining: Explaining the ‘Black Experience’ to black people. Techsplaining: Talking over someone’s head without asking for their knowledge level. And I once accused a feminist of ‘femsplaining’ although she countered she wasn’t sure how much feminist history I knew. ‘Femsplaining’ might be better defined as when women ‘splain’ things to men in a manner designed to patronize rather than sincerely enlighten. Yes, gentlemen, call her out. “Hey, you’re not psychic, you don’t live in my head. Don’t tell me what I think. You’d raise the roof if I did it to you. And for your information, I know  how to operate the washer and dryer, I do my own laundry, including ironing!” Progressives expand and change the meaning of words at will, so progressive feminists schooled in professional victimhood have misused and overused ‘mansplaining’ to cover practically anything men say they don’t like, and especially when they feel intimidated by a man challenging their opinion or facts. That is not what the originator of the term , Rebecca Solnit, described, and we need to return to the original definition. It no longer means, a la Humpty Dumpty, exactly what any woman chooses it to mean. Just make sure your own riposte or assertions are true, because, as Solnit pointed out in her essay, men often assume women don’t know things they do, and more to the point, men often don’t know as much as they think. That guy who’s the expert on everything? Everyone knows one. Don’t be that guy. Lecturing This is by far the most common conversational misdemeanor men commit, and a lot of y’all are doing it. This isn’t lecturing to a class or to your wayward child, it’s when men start running off at the mouth about something that interests them, or even worse, something they think they know about, but don’t. This, I believe, is the distinction the ‘splainin’ the aforementioned commenter asked about. There’s no shortage of female know-it-alls, but they’re less inclined to monologue to display knowledge. What they are more inclined to do is bore your ass off with every detail of their forthcoming wedding or to complain about some chronic problem. I have a male friend who ‘lectures’. He loves to explain stuff whether I asked or not. In fact, he literally can’t shut up. He’ll push past your cries for rescue. He’s a wonderful person but he’s deeply insecure; lecturing is his clumsy way to establish status, but also to add genuine value, however foolishly. Some men just boldly walk up to others and start lecturing. A friend in community college complained about a man she already disliked who waltzed up to a conversation she was in with three or four people and just started popping off about some documentary he’d watched the night before. Just interrupted and started lecturing; no one was discussing it, no one was interested, and he was so busy impressing himself he was oblivious to their irritation. Lecturers aren’t good at reading the room, or watching for glazed eyeballs, averted glances or other signs of impatience. I watched my lecturing friend destroy a pandemic-era friends Zoom by lecturing and troubleshooting a minor tech issue that wasn’t important. He missed the clear signs of irritation on my other friends’ faces and I knew they would never agree to another Zoom. I was right. Challenging - Not a misdemeanor! This isn’t a particularly male impulse: It’s gender-non-specific when we encounter misinformation, bad ideas or ill-thought-out proposals. But it’s also what’s most likely to trigger accusations of mansplaining because no one likes being criticized or corrected, however politely, in public. Problem is, incorrect statements in public forums invite it. It’s a public forum. It invites feedback.  Posters, writers, and commenters never object to positive feedback (“You’re so right!”) but hackles rise with negative response (“Good point, but you’re wrong about….” or even worse, “Jane, you ignorant slut!”) NSFW: An adult woman will own up and admit she got something wrong; perhaps even thank the person for the correction. A less mature woman will react badly, which happened to a male friend of mine recently. The lady made a proposition on Facebook; my friend pointed out there were some flaws in her plan; and she got pissy and accused him of ‘mansplaining’ to the ‘silly little girl’. He called me to vent because she’s one of my Facebook friends, although I haven’t talked to her in years. He invited me to check out the thread, which did. He didn’t mansplain; he was polite; never suggested she was a child. She wasn’t mature enough to handle a direct challenge when a more mature person would have said, “You’re right, not everyone can do what I propose.” Later, she deleted the entire thread, cementing her lack of maturity. This is a woman in her mid-forties. Men don’t have to tolerate female hypersensitivity when they’re legitimately challenging something she said. Keep it straightforward and non-insulting, as a patronizing or condescending tone can easily sound like mansplaining. But it’s fair game to return with, “Sorry, but human blood is always red; it’s a myth that it’s blue until oxygenated.” Link a credible source if needed. Men’s conversation-dominant style works better in male-only spaces, where, the earlier-referenced commenter noted, it’s de rigueur . Some jerks intentionally dominate, talk over and belittle women to shut them up. Don’t be that guy, remember that women’s speech and conversational styles are different, managing ego protection, rapport-building, and softening bluntness, dynamics men should incorporate, too, for fewer misunderstandings. We all need to accommodate each other and recognize that what works at a ‘hen party’ , or in the mancave, requires refinement in a mixed setting. And ladies: DON’T LET HIM DOMINATE. The woman is not always right Comedians still joke about this when a man is married, although I don’t find it as funny as I used to, because too many women, especially progressives, seem to believe it. Which just goes to show you, it’s not just men who suffer from intellectual self-delusions! To recap: Mansplaining is never okay. It’s explaining something to a woman you already know she knows. Lecturing is annoying and often gets confused with mansplaining. Read the room and release your hostages. Challenging is perfectly acceptable, because public forums literally demand it. Refute charges of mansplaining by defining it via Rebecca Solnit and restate why you challenged what she said. I hope this makes it all clear. Please spread the message far and wide, gentlemen; you don’t have to tolerate female tantrums if you truly haven’t done anything wrong. The blueprint’s pretty easy: Skip to the point, wrap it up, or challenge her wisely. You’re not responsible for her feelings beyond that. She’s a a big girl, whether she knows it or not. NSFW!!! Or if you must watch this at work, turn down the sound. Rather a lot. Did you like this post? Do you want to see more? I lean left of center, but not so far my brains fall out. Subscribe to my Substack newsletter  Grow Some Labia  so you never miss a damn thing! There are also Substack  and Spotify  podcasts of more recent articles!

Liberalism has become a zombie movie. You never know who will get infected with the woke mindvirus and turn on you. Image by Grae Dickason from Pixabay I understand why so many rational people find themselves drifting to the right. Or maybe, should I say, persistently pushed. I met up with a liberal single guy this summer. He slipped into the conversation, “I’m very supportive of LGBTQ,” I think to see how I’d react. “Live and let live,” I think I said. Didn’t seem like the right time to observe Skrmetti got it right. His comment gnawed at me. Even if we saw eye to eye on my squarely normie view of ‘trans rights’, how do I know he won’t flake on me eventually? How do I know he won’t go woke? Is it something in the avocado toast? What if he comes to believe I’m a fascist for believing drag shows are for adults , not children? What if he becomes an intolerant illiberal? What if he gets bitten by a transwoman??? Who can I trust anymore? Liberal friendships are fragile; loyalty has become conditional—subject to ‘high’ standards of performative ideological purity. No matter how much one liberal might agree with another, one might be found unworthy of friendship because he pish-poshes reparations. Or thinks #MeToo has jumped the shark. Conversation with liberals is like tiptoeing through a mine field; you never know what will set them off. How do I know they won’t succumb to the lure of belonging to a group that love bombs you with affirmation and makes you feel specialer-than-thou by uniting against a common enemy—people who don’t capitulate? So many of my friends, people I’ve known for years or even decades, slip away into the night, their Purity Balls becoming ever-more-exclusive to rational thought or dissent. One was someone close who didn’t just defriend me on Facebook, but blocked me. We hadn’t exchanged a single harsh word. But she got married and we lost touch, and all she knew me by was my Facebook posts, and I’ll bet she didn’t like my take-no-shit feminism. Hers was fairly ossified , whose commitment to feminist activism was texting ‘Happy International Women’s Day’. People become disposable; you can toss them and not think too deeply about how little you value genuine human relationships; how devotion to a narrative is more important to you than that she was one of your bridesmaids who put up with your Bridezilla crap for months or that she’s been your best friend since second grade. Lifelong loyalty becomes a used napkin you leave for the waiter to pick up. To be honest, I deserved a few blowoffs. My mouth runneth over, along with my ego. Sometimes I am possessed by my former know-it-all 21-year-old. I own that. I am absolutely an arrogant asshole sometimes, even as I’ve worked on that for years. I reconnected with one ex-friend by not being an asshole anymore. There are a few others I have to find emails for. The ones who struck first, with whom I never exchanged harsh words, I bid, as Pagans say, Go in perfect love and perfect trust. After all, it takes an ideological arrogant asshole to defriend one. A few came as a relief. They ended tiresome late-night phone calls regurgitating self-aggrandizing social justice mind dumps. Wokies are in love with the sound of their own voice. I cherish the peace and quiet. Research agrees: Liberals are more intolerant Consistent research, the most recent coming from the Skeptic Research Center , supports my experience of the intolerant left and liberals’ greater willingness to defriend and defamily. It’s most prominent among Zoomers and Millennials but liberals in all age groups admit they’re more likely to cut people off for their political views than those in other political groups. It’s not just me; the anecdotes proliferate online. A Democratic operative who worked closely with the biggest progressive stars speaks of her shunning after announcing on TikTok that she was breaking ranks and voting for Trump, and went viral. A former Pro-Palestine activist speaks of longtime friends who blocked her when she left the movement. And, leaning into the whole women-are-bigger-political-bitches-than-men angle, you’re less likely to get blocked or deplatformed by your male conservative opponents than by women on your own side. They can’t trust liberals either. They’re vicious when you break rank. Which is not to say that conservatives always open welcoming arms to political deviators. The SRC found the stronger one’s views, either side, the more likely one is to cut the cord, and the ‘very conservative’ were more likely to wave bye-bye than more mainstream liberals or conservatives. Millennial conservatives were more likely to go no-contact than moderates on either side. But overall, ‘very liberal’ towered over all the other groups in the intolerance bar chart. Telling your friends you just defriended another ‘toxic person’ virtue signals higher status to your group, since the less -ist you are about anything, the better a human being you’re considered to be. By casually dismissing the person as a ‘right-winger’, ‘Kool-Aid drinker,’ or a ‘transphobe’, the woke progressive reassures the group her moral purity is never sullied by differing views. Stick within your safe little bubble, as a recent conversation with a progressive I had did. She told herself a pretty little lie about a ‘stolen’ election that didn’t go her way from a fake news site. She didn’t ask herself whether she was reacting with the same denial as Donald Trump’s followers in 2020. We’ve all lost our social skills over the past mobile-driven decade. Zoomers have almost none, tallying their likes vs negative comments with the calculated efficiency of a CPA. We’ve become angrier, but some of us are working on it. One woke friend I almost defriended when he screamed abuse at me a few years ago apologized sincerely when I finally told him why I wasn’t comfortable with one-on-one get-togethers. He must have done some self-reflection, as he’s not screamed since, when we’ve disagreed on something. On Halloween, we stood together on a dance floor swaying back and forth to the band with our arms around each other. I felt close to him. There’s hope for those who genuinely value friendship over tribal moral contempt. Why aren’t there more of them? Can’t we develop a vaccine for illiberalism? No Tyrants! (Except our own) I’ve written about my multiple takedowns and bans by ‘woke progressive’ blogging platforms and social media. They don’t like it when you don’t bend the knee. I met a woman at Toronto’s No Tyrants rally with a T-shirt that read “NO BOOK BANS!” I said, “Great shirt, I hate them too. I’m curious, are you against all book bans or only some ?” Of course , she approved of book bans if they ‘harmed’ people. “But who decides who’s being harmed?” I asked. This is the gotcha with wokies. Like their comrades-in-arms on the right, they think they’re the arbiters. She proudly informed me she supports all of Canada’s hate speech laws. “They’re censorship,” I pointed out. “You can get in big trouble just for stating scientifically that transwomen are men.” And her mouth took off. I eventually walked away from her verbal diarrhea , but she came up to me a few minutes later. She asked, sincerely, “Why are you even here?” waving her arm around the crowd as though she couldn’t imagine what I might have in common with these people. “Why are you here?” I asked. “Since you’re authoritarian yourself!” Bad answer. In retrospect I should have challenged her (typical) authoritarian blind spot by saying: “For the same reason you are: I hate Trump’s authoritarianism. I’m quite certain we agree on that. Where we disagree is whether all authoritarianism is bad, or just some. And frankly, someone who wears an anti-book-ban shirt while supporting book bans and speech suppression is an authoritarian hypocrite.” Clearly, she thought everyone at the protest was just like her. But I know something she doesn’t: Not all conservatives are Trump-loving sycophants. The MAGAs can’t agree on him. Plenty of his voters experience buyer’s regret. His historically low poll numbers indicate he’s less popular than $9 a pound coffee. I’d bet there were several conservatives present that day. But they often feel they can’t speak up, as their side has never been particularly tolerant of internal criticism, either. And God help them if the book ban dictators find out they’re there. Who can I still trust? I love my liberal peeps. I’m not a closet Republican slouching towards Candace Owens, and don’t believe I’ll lose my liberal views if I hang out more with conservatives. Rather, I might get a word in edgewise. People who lean left like me are the Silent Majority. I know I’ve found a comrade in arms when we both question wokeness, after proceeding cautiously, like two strange cats, testing the other to see how much heresy she can handle before she leaps for attack. They’re the keepers: They can handle differences of opinion and believe diversity is only skin-deep. They don’t lecture like the No Tyrants lady. They haven’t adopted hypocrisy as a virtue. They haven’t abandoned compassion as so many liberals have, and which the Republican Party abandoned decades ago. They don’t get huffy when you condemn all antisemites and fascism fans, rather than just the other side’s. Their skepticism, critical thinking skills, and ability to ask hard questions aloud provide natural immunity to the zombie’s bite. I’m not worried about turning Republican. I’m worried that when enough liberals embrace illiberalism, they will eventually realize how much they have in common with the other side and realize The enemy of my enemy is my friend. Right now, we normies outnumber both the far right and the far left, but if they unite against us that could change drastically. Remember, Hitler sent intellectuals and freethinkers to his concentration camps, especially in Poland. We see that same pattern repeat itself over and over in totalitarian regimes whether they’re fascist or communist. We question authority and challenge corruption, we stand up for groups marginalized by the ruling party. We weaken their control. They respond with persecution, pogroms, incarceration, torture, and execution, often public, often cruel, to serve as a stern example to others. Progressives and liberals think they’re ‘not like that’ yet many embrace antisemitism, the world’s oldest hate crime, which sounds terrifyingly far-right. Yes, I fear ‘progressives’ could turn on all of us. Yes, I think they might one day re-embrace concentration camps. And they’ll start with us, the moderates and freethinkers, so there is no one left to defend their ultimate scapegoats. We are the resistance, which Hitler understood. Once you eliminate us, you can do as you please. No, I don’t trust liberals anymore. And this is why. Did you like this post? Do you want to see more? I lean left of center, but not so far my brains fall out. Subscribe to my Substack newsletter  Grow Some Labia  so you never miss a damn thing! There are also Substack  and Spotify  podcasts of more recent articles!

"GROW A PAIR" That's what we say to men when we think they're acting weak. "Grow some balls!" So what do we say when women are acting weak? We can't very well tell them to grow some balls. Women can't, of course! Women need to 'grow some labia'! They're the parts of the vagina that would have become the scrotum for the balls had she been born a male instead (and since she didn't, what would have been her balls are her ovaries). But I doubt you came here for a female anatomy lesson. It's time for us to grow some labia and woman up, show more strength, challenge ourselves more. Time to take more charge and responsibility for our lives, and spend less time blaming 'The Patriarchy' or systemic sexism. Those things exist, for sure, but at some point we've got to recognize the buck stops with the woman in the mirror and we need to claim our power (or reclaim it if we gave it away somehow!) So it's time for women everywhere to GROW SOME LABIA! I've written a few blog posts about how we can do exactly that and reclaim our power! Feminism The differences between victim feminism, which sees women as chronically aggrieved and victimized by men and 'The Patriarchy', and power feminism, which is more focused on one's self, achieving and claiming personal power and using it for the betterment of others. Dec 21, 2024 The Transfolk Who Really Do Need Our Support The experience of 'The Bearded Lesbian' reminds us some folks really do need to transition; and how LGBTQ can fail them I began following... Dec 5, 2024 American Feminists Don't Need A 4B Movement The South Korean feminism project will be dead in the water. Like it or not, we need men, and they need us. Maybe we just need to reform... Nov 24, 2024 Emma Watson, Emma Watson, Wherefore Art Thou, Emma Watson? The foxy fauxminist has gone missing in recent years. No movies. No fauxminist outbursts. Not even any trans love tweeted. I... Nov 17, 2024 Progressive Democrats Hate Women More Than The Right. Especially Feminists. Right-wing misogyny isn't How The Left Was Lost. It was women's, the primary administrators and executors of patriarchy and misogyny. The... Oct 12, 2024 A Frenchwoman Is Dead Serious About Holding ALL Her Rapists Accountable The Gisele Pelicot case highlights just how frighteningly high is the number of 'normal' men who have a penchant for, and might be... Sep 14, 2024 Let's Have A Grownup Talk About Privilege - With Curiosity Rather Than Outrage It's real. It's worth exploring even for the UnWoke. Its purpose is to open our own eyes rather than beat up others (and ourselves) over... Feminism Substack Subscribe to my FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER for all my latest on power feminism, reclaiming your power, and the ongoing culture wars. Visit Substack >> Subscribe to my FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER

WELCOME TO MY WEBSITE ABOUT POWER Big Girls Don't Blame The Patriarchy Explore The Blog LABIA POWER! About Me Grow Some Labia! is written by a liberal, feminist writer and social justice critic who teaches women and others how to reclaim their power and avoid partner abuse. She also candidly critiques far-left, progressive/woke/ social justice extremism. It's a place for people who lean left or right, but not so far their brains fall out. GSL's work can be found here and on Substack, Quora. And maybe a few other places. About Me The Latest From My Labia Power! Blog 5 days ago Daniel Penny: The Hero That Wasn't "He scared the living daylights out of everybody." The woke left damns Daniel Penny for trying to save others from a clearly disturbed... Jan 4 We Have To Think About Moderating X, Bluesky And Other Social Media The anoymous psychos who call for others' assassinations are a direct threat to democracy and public safety. Threats are NOT free speech.... Jan 1 Here Comes The 'Woke Right' And It Looks A Helluva Lot Like The Woke Left Brand-new management, same as the last! But the bipartisan UnWoke have the recent accumulated observation to help call out the... Dec 25, 2024 Roman Holiday - A Christmas Story Oh no! Not another Messiah! CC0 public domain Just what we need. Another bloody Messiah. The name’s Flatulous. I’m a Roman soldier in... Dec 21, 2024 The Transfolk Who Really Do Need Our Support The experience of 'The Bearded Lesbian' reminds us some folks really do need to transition; and how LGBTQ can fail them I began following... Dec 14, 2024 Is There Any Real Joy In Learning Anymore? Can students even experience learning something intriguing or unexpected? Or are they only told what to think? "Just kill me now!"... Explore The Blog DON'T BE THE VICTIM Take back your power. NOW. It started with abused women who didn't know they could say No to abuse. It morphed into taking back your power from political bullies and haters, including 'social justice warriors'. Don't Be The Victim GROW SOME LABIA "Grow a pair!" That's what we say to men when we think they're acting weak. "Grow some balls!" So what do we say when women are acting weak? We can't very well tell them to grow some balls. Women can't, of course! Women need to 'grow some labia'! Grow Some Labia I also take on the crazies from the right and the left. Subscribe to my FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER

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