But what if those questions could set them free? What if it led to greater freedom, happiness, more trustworthy friends and--increased status? Pixabay public domain image I didn’t want to be one of those right-wing bigots , of course. It was my last days of blogging on Medium in late 2021, slowly becoming aware of the toxic transactivism that had consumed the liberal mind while I challenged wussy feminism. I was arguing with a popular uber-feminist writer, more learned about the history and philosophy of feminism than I. She said my remarks about transwomen were harmful to a vulnerable, marginalized population when I voiced obvious questions, and I felt guilty; maybe she and the trans-allies were right? She said they needed our compassion, not our judgement. A few times, I acknowledged that transwomen were women, uncomfortably. I wanted to agree with her, but my knowledge of basic biology precluded it. I said to her: I'm also disappointed in your frankly bigoted approach to J K Rowling, who has been quite supportive of the trans community if you're not an entitled dude in a dress (I don't know if she sees them that way, but I see some of them that way). Maybe we should just start labeling the indisputable facts? People with XX chromosomes menstruate and carry babies; people with XY chromosomes don't. We can accept transgenders for what and who they are but please, don't gaslight us about who can menstruate and who will never carry a baby in their belly, until transgender surgery/treatment gets a helluva lot more sophisticated. “Where’s your compassion?” she asked. “Where’s your common sense?” I countered. How could a highly educated, grown-ass woman assert that transwomen were no different from women? She fancied herself a feminist expert! How could she not see the classic abusive male personalities that simmered beneath transactivist Etsy-sourced frillies? I asked all the glaringly obvious questions she wouldn’t. Five days later, my account was suspended. I didn’t petition to get it back. I was already used to the pointlessness of trying to reason with Medium’s woke unreasonables. I still wonder whether my former feminist foe actually believed her own B.S. Not all Believers are as True as they pretend. They know deep down what they profess is wrong-headed, or maybe even downright harmful to others. But preserving positive self-regard offers less psychic pain than a personal integrity unpopular with the maddened crowd, and so they persist, pursuing their personal poison the way alcoholics and drug addicts obsessively seek that which makes them feel worse rather than better. This article focuses on the cognitive dissonance that tortures the human spirit arising from beliefs and narratives one professes, but which one knows on a deeper level to be untrue, when one’s actions don’t align with them. When intelligence and education isn’t enough For woke progressives and liberals, part of our narrative is that we’re good, empathetic people who don’t want anyone to feel the pain of exclusion, which many of us have felt at one time or another, or perhaps throughout our lives. When everyone else professes X and agrees that’s the correct belief to be a good person, the crowd is always right, right? But I’m addicted to reality. I’ve never been very good at not challenging those who deny what I know to be factual. I try to keep an open mind, but not so much my brains fall out. I knew it was wrong from the get-go to claim that transwomen are the same as women because they claim that’s how they feel. The more I explored trans issues, and encountered transactivists, I realized not only weren’t they ‘the same as biological women,’ but they were about as male and misogynist as the guys I wrote women should avoid on Grow Some Labia. The reality-denying Medium feminist didn’t understand that compassion and inclusion can quickly turn into complicity and cruelty. Where was her compassion for women who felt uncomfortable sharing private spaces with the be-penised? Or for female athletes who had to compete against hulking men like Will Thomas? Or lesbians accused of ‘genital fetishism’ by transwomen with a penis? She may not have known about the growing awareness of medical harms potentially visited on ‘trans’ children, or the sudden spike in trans people coinciding with the rise of gender-questioning content on social media, and the creeping influence of queer theory public education. Maybe she didn’t know about Tumblr’s role as a queer factory for gender-morphing labels, pronouns and ‘microaggressions’ pulled out of thin air to be weaponized against people who didn’t adhere to queer mythology. Maybe she didn’t have friends with teenage kids coming home with weird ideas about whether they were actually the immutable sex they were born with. She would have, though, if she’d asked those glaringly obvious questions, and Googled. On some level, she feared what it would mean about her, her values, the hills she’d died on, the public stands she’d taken, and the testament to her intelligence. Who wants to admit they were gaslit, the ‘expert’ who could cite endless highly-regarded sources in support of feminist theory but somehow missed the angry Twitter invitations to ‘suck my ladydick’? Who frequently dissected ‘the Patriarchy’ but missed the ‘cotton ceiling’ whiners , formerly the entitled heterosexual men of our youth accusing women now of being lesbians if they wouldn’t have sex with them? ‘Trans-allies’ are in for several years of high-level, self-inflicted psychic torture, beginning with the death of sex changes for children. The Trump administration’s HHS has issued a ‘best practices’ report for treating confused ‘trans’ children beginning with therapy first. According to Jay Battarcharya, the National Institutes of Health Director, “We must follow the gold standard of science, not activist agendas.” ‘Gender-affirming care’ is shaping up to be one mother of a medical scandal. Not only will woke progressives increasingly face a hostile mob of ‘normies’ turning accusing fingers, demanding to know how they could let his happen, but also the realization that the Trumpoids were right and they themselves were grievously wrong. They thought the science was settled. They trusted progressive media outlets that turned out to be deeply incurious. They didn’t question, and explore for themselves. They didn’t wonder how a respected periodical like Scientific American could issue a mind-bogglingly brainless article like Stop Using Phony Science To Justify Transphobia, or wonder about the credentials of the author, a dude named ‘Simón(e) D Sun’? Scientific American, like other science periodicals, used to believe in evidence. But now, belief is the evidence. Progressive ideologues eliminated inconvenient science, just like their compatriots on t’other side, the fundamentalist Christians. A social psychologist and the UFO cult Dr. Leon Festinger was an important figure in social psychology who infiltrated a doomsday cult which believed a UFO was going to pick them up and save them from a forthcoming apocalypse. He developed the theory of cognitive dissonance after infiltrating the cult to study the members’ actions, behaviours, and thoughts once the expected continent-destroying flood failed to materialize. He examined the psychological distress they felt and how they coped when reality didn’t align with their expectations. Many refused to acknowledge they’d been wrong and rationalized away what went pear-shaped, instead spreading their message and seeking more Believers, each new recruit vindicating them. Their founder helped them rationalize away their pain and disappointment, by relaying the aliens’ convenient new message that their faith had saved the world and therefore, given humanity a second chance. Others, less committed, left the group egg-faced. Monty Python nails the cult mentality in 1979’s The Secret Policeman’s Ball To achieve cognitive consistency, the opposite of cognitive dissonance, one must rationalize the contradictions away, or change one’s mind. In other words, be willing to acknowledge new data has invalidated the old. Rationalizing is easier than thinking things through. “The experts say that if trans kids aren’t allowed to transition they’ll commit suicide. But why didn’t any do that when I was growing up?” The Pain of Asking — and the Greater Pain of Not Asking A far healthier way to achieve cognitive consistency is through learning a very simple but difficult life lesson: Knowing when to acknowledge one is wrong. The sooner the better. It’s extremely hard on the ego to admit you’ve been misled, or simply haven’t done enough research, but the longer you wait to admit what shames you, the worse your future. Being ‘wrong’ is often just a matter of believing what you do with the best available evidence , until more comes along that contradicts, disproves or simply changes the story. You weren’t wrong before; now you’re demonstrating intellectual honesty thanks to newer or better data. This is the whole foundation of scientific inquiry. The Trump years will be sheer hell for ‘trans-friendly’ progressives. They’ve denied the evidence, refused to ask the glaringly obvious questions, kept themselves as insulated as possible, and blithely dismissed facts as ‘right-wing propaganda’. They’ve rationalized their critics were vile TERFs, carefully sealing their ears, eyes and minds. Many, like Dr. Festinger’s Seekers, will cling to their original beliefs, because it’s awfully late in the game to pretend they didn’t know. The consequences of admitting error are high. Achieving cognitive consistency relieves irritating moral hypocrisy, but introduces the new threat of ostracism by unenlightened friends and family, because if Cousin Martha confesses she thinks she was now wrong about something, by extenuation she damns them all. What awaits the Questioners on the other side? The upside for Cousin Martha, if she chooses honest cognitive consistency, is immense psychological relief. Especially if she can avoid talking about it. One way she can re-reconcile her vision of herself as a Good Person is to work with the group she feel she’s harmed. If her intellectual mistake was to support gender-affirming care, she could help detransitioners facing angry backlash from transactivists for publicly admitting they made the wrong decision and now want out. Martha’s experience with her former community would be invaluable for smoothing the detransition backtrack. She’d bring compassion to her new community who tragically bought into a pseudo-scientific narrative detrimental to their health, their mental well-being and their ego. If Martha is brave, she could publicly speak about her personal journey. She could explore why she chose to believe what she did and why she no longer supports it. If she doesn’t want to do it publicly—with good reason—she can do it anonymously on a Substack or an X account. She’ll receive negative feedback, criticism, and outright flaming, but she’ll be safe from personal or professional ruin. Learn how to admit your errors and correct your mistakes. Recognize that changing your mind in light of new evidence makes you honest, not a ‘flip-flopper’. Few actually realize the power —and the optics —in being strong enough to admit and correct mistakes, especially publicly. We all understand that children blame others and everything else rather than accept responsibility. People who act like what we believe adults to be are the obvious adults in the room. And we admire their courage and integrity. There’s increased status to be found in changing your tribe from the fact-fearing to the Questioners. Achieving cognitive consistency starts with asking those glaringly obvious questions. Realigning one’s sense of self with reality may lose some friends and family, but there’s a whole other community of the intellectually and morally responsible waiting for them. Maybe the solution to losing former friends is finding wiser, truer ones. Did you like this post? Do you want to see more? I lean left of center, but not so far my brains fall out. Subscribe to my Substack newsletter  Grow Some Labia  so you never miss a damn thing! There are also Substack  and Spotify podcasts of more recent articles!

The battle for democracy's soul in the ICE Age is beginning to look less like good vs evil than Alien vs Predator. Guess who the losers are? By Elkman on Flickr - Own work, CC BY-SA 3.0 It’s been distressing to watch Donald Trump’s depressingly predictable strong-arm response to violence during the Los Angeles ICE protests. He’s been itching for just this sort of fight so he can prove to his voters he’s the manly-muscular he-man to protect the nation from illegal wrongdoers and anarchic criminals. So of course the more violence-prone on the left handed him his golden justification and demonstrate just how much moral confusion and decay rots the souls of the left as well as the right. The ICE protests are legitimate acts of free speech and began, as always, much less violently than Trump’s Himmlerian response justified, when the damage was still easily within the purview of the LAPD and Governor Gavin Newsom. But the tired pattern we saw with the George Floyd/BLM protests emerged yet again like the Alien from John Hurt’s chest: First Amendment actions degenerated into violent riots and what was once peaceful was now a legitimate reason to bring in outside help. Naturally, Democrats and liberals condemned Trump’s response rather than also the violence that justified  calling in the Guard which, just a tad too early, certainly were necessary not long after. Nadda word from the Demmies against torching shops that put people out of business, or Waymos, arguing that no one drives them so it’s okay. I doubt the firebugs would feel so sanguine if someone torched their cars as a political ‘statement’. Watching political shenanigans in the Trump II era looks more like Alien vs Predator. “Whoever wins…….we lose.” Fetterman stands alone Americans may largely agree on the need to control illegal immigration and remove criminals, but less so on Trump’s illegal and unconstitutional response. On January 22 , about half of U.S. adults thought controlling illegal immigration should be a high priority and only 20% didn’t care. It was a winning campaign promise. Most approved of removing violent offenders, but not how Trump’s executive orders dictated. Today, according to new Pew Research Center findings , while many Americans approve of suspending asylum applications and deporting illegals, 61% disapprove of shipping them to a foreign nation like El Salvador. Support for the the ICE raids is at 54%. One wonders how much higher it would be if the raids were conducted in a methodical, strategic, and properly targeted manner. Support for a border wall is also higher than it was during Trump’s first term—56% vs 46%. Democrats, unsurprisingly, support anti-illegal immigration efforts much less than Republicans, who adore the brown-shirted gross human rights abuses and complete disregard for the law and Constitution that define the very core of Donald Trump’s administration, MAGA Republicans and his own degenerate personality. No one with a shred of human decency could support this. Even some Republican voters are muttering what has become many’s repetitive mantra, “This isn’t what I voted for.” Meanwhile, the left selectively condemns the violence they dislike while ignoring or applauding that which they approve of. Bad: Right-wing response to the ICE protests. Good:  Protest violence pretending to be protected speech. It’s a pattern we’ve seen over and over again in previous protests and especially within the ‘Free Palestine’ movement which exemplifies the moral rot of the woke progressive carcass. Liberals were supposed to be the good guys, remember? Only the lone voice of Senate Democrat John Fetterman rang out in the Democratic wilderness, the only member of his party with the balls to hands-down condemn the violent protesters who invited the tough government response. “I unapologetically stand for free speech, peaceful demonstrations, and immigration—but this is not that. This is anarchy and true chaos.” He also noted how much Democrats “lose the high ground” when they “refuse to condemn setting cars on fire, destroying buildings, and assaulting law enforcement.” Fetterman may be the only ‘normie’ left in the Party. The moral morass of Trump vs the Islamofascists No one can claim the moral high ground in the campus Thunderdome when one side (s)creams for the genocide of another country while the President tries to deport anyone who expresses an opinion he doesn’t like. Protected speech: Criticizing Israel and the IDF’s actions. Unprotected speech: Attacking, harassing, discriminating against and vilifying Jews, and subjecting them to clear hate speech. Funny how quickly the left came to embrace it when it was their own. Funny how Trump came to embrace cancel culture when expressed by Islamofascists rather than MAGA fascists. No one defended Jews during Biden’s Reign of Error. The Democrats turned a blind eye, except for the Volksgemeinschaft  the Squad who gleefully encouraged the blatant violation of Jewish students’ civil rights. It’s open season on Jews in a way the world hasn’t seen since the 1930s. Remember when our  side was against Nazism? It’s dead certain President Kamala Harris would have turned a blind eye to her own Jewish citizens. Before she replaced Biden, President Wannabe WishyWashy praised campus protesters , saying, “There are things some of the protesters are saying that I absolutely reject, so I don’t mean to wholesale endorse their points. But we have to navigate it. I understand the emotion behind it.” She worried more about whether women in Gaza had enough sanitary pads rather than whether Jews in her own country could go to class without being vilified as baby murderers. She never blamed the Gazans for their filthy Islamofascist dictatorship that invited retribution, nor asked why Israel is the only democracy in the Middle East. She fell forever squarely on the Blame Israel side. She never asked how kids obsessed with LGBTQ rights supported the most violently homophobic people in the world. Nor how their obsession with right-wing ‘fascism’ blinded them to the Islamofascism driving the ‘Free Palestine’ movement. If she’s so appalled by IDF violence against the Gazans, where’s her outrage for Hamas’s violence against them? They’re a brutal dictatorship. She and her morally rotten compatriots didn’t see what so many of us do: Harris is as much of an authoritarian cheerleader as the Trumpitarians. Trump decided to do the right thing about campus moral rot: FIX IT. And of course, he screwed it up royally. Trump’s actions are every bit as anti-free speech as anything they’re doing or teaching at Harvard. Political diversity? Do we have any reason to believe he’ll do anything other than turn elite institutions from woke ideological shitholes to MAGA ones? Watching him work to put an end to the blatantly illegal and unconstitutional actions of student protesters violating others’ civil rights isn’t exactly Justice League. Holding my nose I grow ever-more estranged from my fellow liberals as I observe the abandonment of traditional liberal values. Remember when we  weren’t the violent ones? Now we justify violence for ‘a good cause’ the way the right has always done. Luigi Mangione is a far-left folk hero, and the same people who condemn Vance Boelter for assassinating Minnesota Democrat politicians were sad that Thomas Crooks missed Trump  last year in Pennsylvania. Los Angeles rioters threaten, “Delete that photo or we’ll fuck you up.” Condoning your own bad actions gives permission to the other side. The political football in America, like the eternal Israel vs ‘Palestine’ clusterfuck, stretches back for centuries. Axios found that in 2022, all U.S. extremist mass violence was linked to the far right , which has historically been more violent, with occasional eruptions from the left, as we saw in the ‘60s and ‘70s, and once again galvanized by the Hamas October 7 attack. The far right has no moral credibility, either, when it condemns L.A. protest violence. They gave permission. So many partisans can’t differentiate between just causes  and bad actions. Facebook friends I know to be good people post weirdly uncomfortable responses when I say things like, “You can want to criticize or end the violence against the Gazans without being antisemitic or calling for the end of Israel,” or that there is absolutely no moral justification for the October 7 attack. Many on the left don’t understand the complex history of hostilities between the collective descendants of Abraham, and worse, they conveniently ignore the vast body of historical violence and terrorism endemic to Islam. Today’s Islamofascism began with a 7th-century military commander. These Facebook friends aren’t antisemitic, but they’re soft on it, and willfully blind to who’s actually responsible for turning Gaza into a shithole, long before October 7. Squirmy leftists drag out of mothballs, instead, the Charlottesville Unite the Right rally. Um, eight years ago, folks? They don’t like when pointing out the same sins they excoriate on the right, clearly present on the left. Even more exemplifying of the complete moral bankruptcy of many leftists are the so-called liberal ‘feminists’ of the Antisemite Set who denied  the horrific rapes that took place on October 7. False 'False Rape Allegations': The Way Feminists Now Collude With Rape Grow Some Labia 31 January 2024 Read full story We libs are supposed to wax hysterical about Project 2025 when our own embrace genocidal calls, mass rape and Islamofascism ? Of course, the left lost immediate credibility when it weighed in on the side of the October 7 attackers the very same day . Why is racism bad, but antisemitism good? Why is it so hard to say, “Protests good, rioting bad”? Is the law for all of us, or just Donald Trump? Alien vs Predator The MAGA Klan cheered when Trump pardoned his January 6th insurrectionists   rioters  exuberant tourists. When the ICE violence started, the right-wing media shrieked in horror and exaggerated the violence, while the left-wing media practically pretended it wasn’t even there. But how can conservatives claim to stand for law and order, when Trump failed to bring in the Guard for January 6th, or when he hypocritically refused to call the Capitol Hill rioters what he now calls the ICE protesters: Insurrectionists. The morally rotten right gave permission for violent ICE protests. FFS, they chose a demonstrably lawless man to uphold the law. A second time. It’s hard to envision this bipartisan moral decay as ending in anything other than pain, blood, and at least some deaths. I still sometimes wonder whether Donald Trump is America’s ugliest enema , the man who will purge the shit out of both sides of the polar-ized ICE caps. Well, someone had to do it. The haters, criminals and rioters on the left weren’t going to clean themselves or anyone else up. It’s just a shame that the right won’t either. They’ll simply replace their own lawless, authoritarian vision for America to replace the Democrats’. And for now, it’s Alien vs Predator and—guess who’s losing. Did you like this post? Do you want to see more? I lean left of center, but not so far my brains fall out. Subscribe to my Substack newsletter  Grow Some Labia  so you never miss a damn thing! There are also Substack  and Spotify podcasts of more recent articles!

Why do people cling to outdated ideas more than their unfortunate past hairstyles? Fossilized dinosaur Image by Peter Griffin at Public Domain Pictures Bill Maher’s recent New Rule explains in the most sarcastic manner possible why the ossified #MeToo movement needs to add a new amendment for 2025: “If you’re being abused, you’ve gotta leave right away.” This updates a relentless drive that #MeToo did nothing to dispel, consistently ignoring the central statement of fact in Maher’s Rule: Women have choice and agency. Maher quite rightly notes, as I’ve been screaming into the feminist wind, that #MeToo needs to recognize sex crime reporting has shot up, as have the number of women willing to speak out—often under their own names rather than social media pseudonyms. States have passed more victim-friendly laws making it easier to report. Sez Maher, “We’re no longer in the ‘No one listens to women or takes them seriously’ era anymore.” Including the police. His comments were inspired by the Diddy trial, in which Cassie Ventura’s texts come across as less non-consensual than she testified. It points to the strangely controversial feminist notion that women have the agency to leave abusive relationships, and the time to report and leave is as soon as it starts, not ten years into the abuse, or worse, ten years after it ends. The LA Times doesn’t agree; a modern chickie-boo journalist stuck in 1982 argues, essentially, that Diddy’s victims had no personal agency ; that ‘trauma connections’, the feminist catchphrase to explain away inconvenient female responsibility, kept them psychologically bound to him. Although they weren’t the only thing, as Cassie Ventura admitted. She stays (present tense) for the money: Diddy is still paying her rent. The LA writer’s ‘feminist’s’ perspective is so ossified I’m surprised she could move her fingers to type. She rails against those who ask ‘why don’t they leave,’ rather than asking when that will become a viable question. How much longer, and much more power, must women accumulate before we recognize that it’s easier to avoid developing those infamous trauma connections in the first place? This ain’t the Ike and Tina Turner era. It ain’t The Battered Wife, The Burning Bed, or a 1980s marital rape trial in which the defendant’s lawyer asked, “A woman who’s still in a marriage is presumably consenting to sex…Maybe this is the risk of being married, you know?” Never does the LA writer ask the question so many other ossified feminists don’t either: Yes, we agree trauma connections are real along with many complex reasons why women get involved with men like P. Diddy and stay, so why aren’t we encouraging women and particularly young girls to observe their personal psychology to identify their weak points so would-be Cassie Venturas can avoid Diddies? P. Diddy’s Misogyny and Misogynoir Are The Red Flags His Victims Ignore I suspect others like Ms. I’m-So Ossified-I-Still-Sport-A-Toni-Home-Perm fear the embarrassing answers, like that putting up with abusive men often involves a mental cost/benefit analysis: How worth it is it to stay? Enough to not have to pay one’s own rent, apparently. And, you got to meet a lot of stars and celebrities, so maybe the drug-laced compulsory group sex was worth it. The L.A. writer and others whose ideals should have gone extinct by now continue to infantilize women, when they can easily ruin a man’s life by naming him in a #MeToo tweet. Women no longer lack power they once did in the face of patriarchy. I’d expect my contemporaries to get with the program, look around, and observe how downright feminized , for example, the Democratic Party has become. They’re still going on as if women are constantly dragged under by a perpetual riptide of misogyny. Oh please. We have all failed the Millennials and Zoomers by teaching or at least not challenging outdated victim mentalities that don’t, as Bill Maher points out, hold up to scrutiny anymore. ‘22 scariest lines’? Speaking of ossified feminists, Ms. magazine recently extracted what they consider to be the scariest parts of the Republican Project 2025. If you’ve read the document (has anyone?) or even skimmed it, you know there are a shit-ton of bad ideas, but Ms. managed to pull out , instead, good ideas that make the project look a lot less sinister to people whose Permian-era values aren’t summed up as, “If the other side supports something common sense, I’m against it.” Most of Ms. ’s fear factors are those which are now supported by a fair chunk of normie human mammals, including protecting children from trans ideology; adopting “marriage, family, work, church, school, volunteering,” as ‘building blocks’ of a healthy society; promoting patriotism, colorblindness, and workplace competence in place of woke/social justice ideology; marriage promotion; calls for a more fact-based approach to the next pandemic; and defining a woman as what we actually are: Adult human females. Evolution: It doesn’t just terrify bass-ackwards Christians! Other selected ‘scary lines’ were genuinely scary, demonstrating conservative hostility to abortion rights and the environment, and a serious hard-on for authoritarianism we’re already watching unfold; but one ‘scary line’ for Ms. was downright hypocritical: Damning the Project for proposing to eliminate promoting abortion information and services abroad. Totally cool, though, with screwing up perfectly normal kids overseas with social-justice ideological genderwoo. Most of Ms. ’s hand-wringing is rooted in unexamined values. These lefty lollies haven’t investigated modern research in the areas of brain science , evolutionary psychology , history , and other schools of thought that have greatly changed how we think about men and women, sex roles, and power. Their views are as ossified as their knees. As are those of so many in both parties in Washington. The dinosaurs of D.C. Washington is a town full of lumbering walnut brains. The comet finally struck, on January 20th. Now all we mammals have to do is ride out the bipartisan authoritarian winter. The exemplar of ossification in America is our own Trumposaurus Wrecks and his creaky MAGAdon John Hammonds resurrecting bad, unworkable, no-longer-viable ideas like an ideological Jurassic Park. Like tariffs as stuck in the early ‘80s as much as the L.A writer. Like eliminating healthcare. Like hoovering up anyone not-white rather than checking to see if they’re actually illegal immigrants, or criminals. Like eliminating pollution standards. And his love affair with a ‘Gilded Age’-era economic agenda . Donald Trump is such a relic I’m surprised he didn’t drag his supermodel future wife off the runway by her hair. ‘Pussy-grabbing’ is positively Paleolithic. The Jurassic Park of museum-worthy long-past-their-sell-by ideas aren’t just limited to the GOPosauruses and their red-capped semi-fossilized Congresscritters. The equally-ossified Democratatops are now less popular than a Bible at a Diddy freak-off because of their own ideas that, like Trump, they Just. Won’t. Let. Go. Here’s a screaming example of everything far left-ossified that drives the Democratatops consistently into the extinction ditch: The 5,000-year-old hate-on for all things Jewish, particularly Israel, and the ludicrous notion that the ‘Palestinians’ are sinless and blameless. The left was goose-stepping antisemitism when I was in college, although mostly behind closed doors. But an attack on a music festival empowered them to crawl out from under their death camp rubble to fly their keffiyeh freak flags. New York mayor wannabe Zohran Mamdani wants to ‘globalize the intifadah’'; Democratic ‘Squad’ Congress members Rashida Tlaib, Cori Bush and Ilhan Omar were the only Democrats who couldn’t muster the moral courage to vote for a House resolution late last year to condemn a ‘global rise of antisemitism’. Then there’s the Kiddie Keffiyeh Klan at your local elitist university. These people who haven’t cracked open a book about Israel or Judaism since the original Exodus would feel quite at home in fifteenth-century Europe. Traditional Democratic ideals once sensibly rooted in tolerance, human value, diversity and inclusion have fossilized. No one’s questioned whether they’ve taken laudable values too far for too many years. Is there such a thing as too much tolerance, too much human value, too much diversity, too much inclusion? Can we consider those questions, please, while Democrats and the far-left lament the University of Pennsylvania revoking Will Thomas’s swimming awards and naming the actual (real female) winners years after they ‘lost’ to a man with an obvious dick in his swim trunks? Who’s running the Democrats, anyway? Dr. Renee Richards ? Today, they console themselves after an election trouncing with self-congratulating, holier-than-thou virtue signalling, mouthing pieties to tolerance, human value, diversity and inclusion while they turn away their conservative, Trump-voting family members from Thanksgiving dinner. And they think Trump voters are the intolerant ones. Evolve already! CC0 1.0 Universal image from Open Clip Art I know so many people whose beliefs and values remain mired in amber. Cognitive scientist Dr. David Levitin at Montreal’s McGill University claims humans are not wired to change their minds because until very, very recently, information changed so little that facts tended to get stuck in proto-craniums. Except, how would humans have survived if they weren’t forced to learn new ideas and skills, like how to survive the approaching Ice Age? It strikes many that we often refuse to re-examine old values and beliefs periodically, or simply to naturally evolve, because it might suggest we were wrong, about which we have a veritable phobia, even though it might not always have been a wrong belief, but something changed, or we now have better knowledge. More contemporarily, changing one’s mind carries particular peril for those whose community is particularly intolerance-based: Failing to kowtow to established ossified narratives runs one the risk of being ostracized from their community with ‘cancellation’ and defriendings. Liberals won’t cross party lines as much as the right. Many Democratic young women won’t date a Trump supporter ; who are less likely to feel the reverse, although, as more women drift toward the Republicans, maybe dating is getting easier, especially since many white women traditionally vote that way. Never do they wonder whether perhaps Trump won partly because he promised to roll back the excesses of Democratic ossified policies and values, however ossified his own might be. Some people believe they don’t need to change their views when they already ‘know’ they’re right, howevermuch facts fail to support their ossification. Easier, it becomes, to embrace safer ‘crony beliefs’ that reduce the risk of social ostracism rather than adopt ‘merit beliefs’ based in evidence and best available knowledge. Like they say in Communist countries: Shut up and keep your head down. Thinking too critically leads to cognitive dissonance from holding conflicting beliefs. De-ossification isn’t popular with one’s peer group, whether they’re lefty liberals or hardcore conservatives. Remember the Dixie Chicks fiasco during Bush II when they offended conservative fragile flowers and got banned from radio? It really doesn’t pay to think for yourself. Critical thinking is for losers and people who never want to receive a social invitation ever again. But the dinosaurs did eventually die out, and sometimes it feels like maybe we’re experiencing a global T-Rex vs Velociraptor duke-out to the death. Maybe all we ‘normies’ have to do is stay underground until the last of the progressive and MAGA dinosaurs fall. After all, we inherited the earth from them once before, and we can do it again. No one knows if this is a Republican or Democrat, conservative or liberal, anarchist or autocrat. All we know is that it didn’t move fast enough. CC BY-NC-ND 2.0 image by Nick Normal on Flickr Did you like this post? Do you want to see more? I lean left of center, but not so far my brains fall out. Subscribe to my Substack newsletter  Grow Some Labia  so you never miss a damn thing! There are also Substack  and Spotify podcasts of more recent articles!

"GROW A PAIR" That's what we say to men when we think they're acting weak. "Grow some balls!" So what do we say when women are acting weak? We can't very well tell them to grow some balls. Women can't, of course! Women need to 'grow some labia'! They're the parts of the vagina that would have become the scrotum for the balls had she been born a male instead (and since she didn't, what would have been her balls are her ovaries). But I doubt you came here for a female anatomy lesson. It's time for us to grow some labia and woman up, show more strength, challenge ourselves more. Time to take more charge and responsibility for our lives, and spend less time blaming 'The Patriarchy' or systemic sexism. Those things exist, for sure, but at some point we've got to recognize the buck stops with the woman in the mirror and we need to claim our power (or reclaim it if we gave it away somehow!) So it's time for women everywhere to GROW SOME LABIA! I've written a few blog posts about how we can do exactly that and reclaim our power! Feminism The differences between victim feminism, which sees women as chronically aggrieved and victimized by men and 'The Patriarchy', and power feminism, which is more focused on one's self, achieving and claiming personal power and using it for the betterment of others. Dec 21, 2024 The Transfolk Who Really Do Need Our Support The experience of 'The Bearded Lesbian' reminds us some folks really do need to transition; and how LGBTQ can fail them I began following... Dec 5, 2024 American Feminists Don't Need A 4B Movement The South Korean feminism project will be dead in the water. Like it or not, we need men, and they need us. Maybe we just need to reform... Nov 24, 2024 Emma Watson, Emma Watson, Wherefore Art Thou, Emma Watson? The foxy fauxminist has gone missing in recent years. No movies. No fauxminist outbursts. Not even any trans love tweeted. I... Nov 17, 2024 Progressive Democrats Hate Women More Than The Right. Especially Feminists. Right-wing misogyny isn't How The Left Was Lost. It was women's, the primary administrators and executors of patriarchy and misogyny. The... Oct 12, 2024 A Frenchwoman Is Dead Serious About Holding ALL Her Rapists Accountable The Gisele Pelicot case highlights just how frighteningly high is the number of 'normal' men who have a penchant for, and might be... Sep 14, 2024 Let's Have A Grownup Talk About Privilege - With Curiosity Rather Than Outrage It's real. It's worth exploring even for the UnWoke. Its purpose is to open our own eyes rather than beat up others (and ourselves) over... Feminism Substack Subscribe to my FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER for all my latest on power feminism, reclaiming your power, and the ongoing culture wars. Visit Substack >> Subscribe to my FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER

WELCOME TO MY WEBSITE ABOUT POWER Big Girls Don't Blame The Patriarchy Explore The Blog LABIA POWER! About Me Grow Some Labia! is written by a liberal, feminist writer and social justice critic who teaches women and others how to reclaim their power and avoid partner abuse. She also candidly critiques far-left, progressive/woke/ social justice extremism. It's a place for people who lean left or right, but not so far their brains fall out. GSL's work can be found here and on Substack, Quora. And maybe a few other places. About Me The Latest From My Labia Power! Blog 5 days ago Daniel Penny: The Hero That Wasn't "He scared the living daylights out of everybody." The woke left damns Daniel Penny for trying to save others from a clearly disturbed... Jan 4 We Have To Think About Moderating X, Bluesky And Other Social Media The anoymous psychos who call for others' assassinations are a direct threat to democracy and public safety. Threats are NOT free speech.... Jan 1 Here Comes The 'Woke Right' And It Looks A Helluva Lot Like The Woke Left Brand-new management, same as the last! But the bipartisan UnWoke have the recent accumulated observation to help call out the... Dec 25, 2024 Roman Holiday - A Christmas Story Oh no! Not another Messiah! CC0 public domain Just what we need. Another bloody Messiah. The name’s Flatulous. I’m a Roman soldier in... Dec 21, 2024 The Transfolk Who Really Do Need Our Support The experience of 'The Bearded Lesbian' reminds us some folks really do need to transition; and how LGBTQ can fail them I began following... Dec 14, 2024 Is There Any Real Joy In Learning Anymore? Can students even experience learning something intriguing or unexpected? Or are they only told what to think? "Just kill me now!"... Explore The Blog DON'T BE THE VICTIM Take back your power. NOW. It started with abused women who didn't know they could say No to abuse. It morphed into taking back your power from political bullies and haters, including 'social justice warriors'. Don't Be The Victim GROW SOME LABIA "Grow a pair!" That's what we say to men when we think they're acting weak. "Grow some balls!" So what do we say when women are acting weak? We can't very well tell them to grow some balls. Women can't, of course! Women need to 'grow some labia'! Grow Some Labia I also take on the crazies from the right and the left. Subscribe to my FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER

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