The Reign of Error required more suspension of disbelief than a Fast & Furious movie. And now, Le Déluge of skepticism. There’s a light at the end of the tunnel. From publicdomainpictures.net The February school massacre in Tumbler Ridge, British Columbia was committed by a not-so-committed ‘transwoman’. Jesse Van Rootselaar, like his predecessor Adam Lanza at Sandy Hook, warmed up by killing family members before moving to the secondary school where he killed six more people, and injured 27 more. I Google the ‘trans’ shooters to see if they’re a guy, or a girl on testosterone. Because nothing drives violence quite like the androgen rooster booster. While I tend to be fairly unsympathetic to the rainbow tribe’s overweening concern for ‘how this will affect transpeople’ as opposed to “how will this affect the victims’ families?”, I do feel sympathy for those transwomen who were cruelly misidentified on social media as the shooter. Van Rootselaar was just another typical male loner with a plethora of pre-existing mental health issues, including a preoccupation with online violence as entertainment, and of course, that classic male love affair with weapons. His attraction to transitioning brought the customary psychiatric co-morbidities conveniently ignored, as they have been for well over a decade in ‘gender dysphoric’ youth. That’s beginning to change, as we’ll get to shortly, but Van Rootselaar’s ‘gender dysphoria’ was almost certainly a related but not relevant side effect of his shooting spree. In fact, he allegedly expressed regret for having transitioned and for having ‘brainwashed’ himself. Van Rootselaar also shared with his fellow mass shooters participation in the ‘nihilistic’ darkweb where those who believe nothing is real and life isn’t worth living fester and suppurate. In fact, the relationship of the recent rise in transgender mass shooters may have grown out of a fatalistic impulse already present in the trans movement, which might make the violent darkweb more attractive, according to an Illinois doctor who explores the connection in her article, Gender Nihilism and the Revolutionary Impulse . Dr. Brooke Laufer emphasizes that exploring transgenderism and ‘gender identity’ causes neither violence nor criminal behavior. But, she notes, “When a person’s identity becomes detached from embodied reality, personal history, and stable relationships, it can drift toward nihilism: the belief that life itself has no inherent meaning or value. In that state, ideology can rush in to fill the void. For a small but notable subset of radicalized individuals, the combination of identity instability, existential fear, and moral absolutism can make violence feel not only permissible, but purposeful.” I’d be hard-pressed to identify a movement, subculture, or group as frighteningly detached from reality as transgenders, trying to escape an immutable biology that was set at conception. Even so, transgenderism doesn’t look much like a cause, just as a more brightly-colored iteration of underground nihilism. Laufer goes on to explore transgender-driven revolutionary groups like the Turtle Island Liberation Front, a collection of pro-Palestinian and anti-capitalist ideologues who’ve allegedly plotted attacks against ICE facilities. And the Zizians, better-suited for those drawn to a techno-apocalypse driven by AI. They’re young, they’re transgender, and they’re loaded for destroying society and remolding it with accelerationist Play-Doh. Public domain photo from Pxhere But if it seems as though transgenderism is now moving into a more dangerously violent phase, take heart: This may well be their death rattle. Transgendermania is dying. But it’s not going down without a fight. They’re beginning to lose them, though The times they are a changin’. Most of us, liberal or conservative, don’t care how others live their lives as long as they respect others’ boundaries. Progressives wouldn’t draw them, so now the rest of us are. The pink-and-blue flag crew’s losses are racking up. For starters, transgender as an identity has been losing steam for the last few years. According to a new report by Canadian Politics professor Eric Kauffman and director of the Centre for Heterodox Social Science , there’s been a precipitous drop in identification as ‘trans’ or ‘queer’ in Gen Z since 2023, from 6.8% to 3.6% as of 2025. The Day of Wreckening came with the reinstatement of Donald Trump last January. Love him or hate him, his election marked a blessed and long-needed death knell for a movement that just didn’t know when to quit. He ended male athletes competing on women’s sports teams (one of Kamala Harris’s most unpopular positions), he redefined biological sex (correctly); he reassigned ‘trans’-upon-conviction men back to male prisons; re-allowed single-sex emergency shelters to reject biological male ‘trans’ people from female-only facilities; and defunded transgender health initiatives for children, along with raising the age of consent to 19 for anything from puberty blockers to surgery. ‘Trans rights’ has lost several court cases in the last few years, and especially the beginning of this one. The losses include the Skrmetti decision last year, in which the U.S. Supreme Court upheld a Tennessee law banning puberty blockers and cross-sex hormones for minors. Several state bans on restricting or banning gender markers on official documents have been upheld, and a Kansas ‘bathroom bill’ to force transgender people to use the bathrooms and locker rooms of their conception sex was vetoed by the governor but defeated by overriding Republican lawmakers. It’s important to note there are no cases of trans-identified men being attacked in men’s rooms, but plenty of bad-boyism among TiMs in ladyspaces. If I’m wrong about cis attacks on trans dudes, comment below or DM me here. Twenty-twenty-six began with the first successful detransition lawsuit against medical doctors accused of malpractice. Fox Varian was awarded $2 million in the State of New York for her double mastectomy at 16, after which she came to regret her decision once she no longer identified as male. Close to thirty other lawsuits around the U.S. are in progress. Perhaps not so coincidentally, the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, just a week later, issued a brand-new guideline for medical practitioners and and teenage patients: that all surgical interventions be postponed until age 19. I wonder why they waited until now to say so? And, speaking of lawsuits, the State of Florida has launched three : Against the activist WPATH, the American Endocrine Society, and the American Academy of Pediatrics for engaging in a ‘coordinated campaign’ to develop clinical guidelines for demonstrably harmful treatments of children for which there is little to no scientific evidence—a finding that had been well-documented for years. At the same time, the FTC is investigating the three for alleged ‘false or unsubstantiated claims’ and whether the guidelines of each of these groups constitute ‘unfair or deceptive practices.’ The Horrifying WPATH Documents Leak Details Appalling ‘Gender Affirming Care’ Malpractice Mr. & Mrs. Darling Transgenderism is the ultimate denial of reality: To be human meant to pass through puberty, and the only way to avoid it was to die young. Telling children they have a ‘right’ to not go through puberty, as transactivist whack job Andrew Chu has assured them, or that they were ‘born in the wrong body’, are dirty lies discouraging immature, half-formed humans to reject their healthy bodies and live in psychological and physical torment for the rest of their (presumably) long, but now potentially shorter, lives . Transactivists, educators, therapists, medical practitioners, and even ‘science’ magazines have been pushing these filthy falsehoods for nearly a generation. Telling children they can avoid adulthood speaks to an unacknowledged but fundamental psychic problem not with children, but with their parents primarily on the progressive left: A longing to return to childhood. Perhaps it was the ruminative pining of Mr. and Mrs. Darling, the parents of Michael, John and Wendy, to give their children a Never-Never-Land where no one ever has to assume the mantle of responsibility for themselves and others. How conveniently the Mr. & Mrs. forgot how managed their lives once were by adults, exemplified by compulsory school, when every child’s fondest wish was to ‘get big’ as soon as possible so they didn’t have to do what they were told. Unless they were paid to do it with a job. In contrast to every generation until the Millennials, growing up was long-anticipated by children eager to manage their own adult lives. But progressive parents sundered that by teaching them they need never experience a negative feeling, that each child knew what was best for themselves and that their safety was so paramount they mustn’t do anything to endanger that. Best to stay home, therefore, than to risk living in reality like an adult. Along came the ‘self-esteem’ movement in which every child got a trophy for minor transactions simply expected of children from previous generations, led by Progressive Parenting for whom No was the dirtiest word in the English language. So when their children expressed a desire to be what they weren’t, progressive parents naturally said, “Of course, honey.” For some it was even a status symbol. Transgenderism is arguably the most deeply damaging Bad Idea to come out of the progressive movement this century. It’s the most inauthentic social movement ever, denying the fundamental reality of organic life. It’s never been about ‘gender dysphoria’; it’s a transhumanist social justice project that attempted to bring equity to the sexes by, ironically, embracing traditional conservative gender stereotypes before erasing them. A rock might as well identify as a tree. The Rise Of Unhappy ‘Trans Kids’ And The Role Of Progressive Parenting A Dude-y Transactivist Shows How Dangerously Dudeist The Trans Nuts Are Transgenderism 2.0 That said, sex-changing will never go away, nor need it. I’ve argued that transgenderism, in addition to providing genuine relief for that tiny slice of humanity that genuinely needs it, could also be a force for real change as I argued a few years ago in What If The Transgender Movement Evolved More Honestly? What it offered was what humanity most desperately needs right now—an ‘under the skin’ game in which we learn what life is like for others, whom we aren’t. The Transfolk Who Really Do Need Our Support (about Aaron Kimberly) I’ve argued similarly in We Accept Transgenderism. Are We Ready For Transracialism? Why not experience life as a woman, when you were born male, or black if you were born white? Or the reverse? I theorize how. I know cross-racialism is primarily a white female thing, and ‘female Pretendians’ abound. (Are there even any genuine Indigenous anymore?) I know most of these people traverse boundaries for the wrong reasons, and I understand why various races or ethnic groups object. They’re the same reasons defenders of womanhood offer as objections to transgenderism. But what if people crossed sex and race for better reasons? The left has primarily been misappropriating sex and race mostly to qualify for membership in victimhood clubs. If a young woman feels guilty about being born white, as the left is wont to do, she may well de-whitenize herself. If a man feels like women can have sex with anyone they want, to the point where the girls turn their genitals into a ‘roastie’, then becoming a woman might seem the ticket to endless sex. Or simply to stop being lambasted for being born the way he was. If we turned the narrative from victimhood to inquiry, the reasons for ‘crossing the border’ might well change. For the better. If we encouraged people to be true to themselves, to be who they really were instead of wishing for whatever they weren’t born with, we’d create happier, more self-actualized human beings who could continue to progress humanity and fix our sick society rather than change one’s sex, and commit suicide anyway , because it didn’t solve all their problems. Like, you know, Jesse Van Rootselaar. Transgenderism is sometimes nihilistic, but so are many non-trans. Change is good, necessary, and even unavoidable, but conscious change should be for the right reasons. I honestly don’t want transgenderism to disappear. I merely want it to grow up. And to stop hurting people. I welcome today’s death rattle. Did you like this post? Do you want to see more? I lean left of center, but not so far my brains fall out. Subscribe to my Substack newsletter  Grow Some Labia  so you never miss a damn thing! There are also Substack  and Spotify  podcasts of more recent articles!

How bipartisan cruelty and stupidity came to dominate American politics Photo by R. du Plessis  on Unsplash I don’t like torture porn horror movies for the same reason I don’t like American politics: both reward cruelty and stupidity on a bipartisan scale. The Hostel  franchise presents privileged rich fucks who treat the plebs (that’s us, folks) like objects. Or, as in The Human Centipede , the cruelty is simply the point. Torture porn sometimes wraps itself in flimsy righteousness, testing and ‘teaching’ morally questionable characters by antagonists who are themselves far more morally compromised. Saw pretends to teach the value of life by, what, permanently traumatizing people? The psychopathic ex-Nazi creates a human centipede the way a child pulls the legs off a spider. Because he can. Because it’s cool. Because the power. Knowing how popular these torture porn franchises are, I wonder why anyone with a soul would want to watch them. And that makes me want to go live in the woods with the animals. So here we are. Trump/Harris America, with a blindingly sadistic and stupid President, only occasionally corralled by one party of obedience who’s afraid of him, and the party that drove voters to this hellish vision right into his arms. Cinematic Nero’s circuses remind me too much of us. Mindless cruelty and moral decay are what customarily precedes the decline of the republic. 2024: A bipartisan comparison of cruelty and stupidity The 2024 U.S. election was emblematic of what’s failing with America, and Americans. Our winner was he who embodied both elements in near-equivalent measure: One of the stupidest Presidents ever with an astonishing capacity for cruelty. Trump’s opponent’s fatal flaws manifested differently, in a very smart and educated woman, but who catered to the stupidity of woke progressives because she thought they would lead her to victory. Kamala Harris also embraced its sister, not by being cruel herself but by catering to the most heartless voters of her base rather than failing to challenge them—the gleefully vicious anti-semites, the Goebbels-censors of social media and blogging, the pronoun police, the elite academic madrassas, the manipulative, rank misogynists and child groomer transactivists, the ‘acceptable’ racists struggling to preserve DEI. Both candidates exemplified everything hideously wrong with America. The difference is that Harris didn’t embody cruelty and stupidity like Trump, but rather, refused to question progressive values which had long since crossed over into sadistic Dark Triadism, smiling like a Brat as she toted her putrescent backpack through the Democratic Thunderdome. There’s a Trump knuckle-dragger somewhere on the left, with the same narcissistic cruelty and commitment to advancing the cruelling and stupiding of America, but I don’t know who that is. I have a few ideas, but it’s possible we’ve not yet heard of them. It may take years or decades for that far-left narcissistic psychopath to manifest, unless Americans decide they don’t want to become a failed state duking it out over scarce resources like Sudan. Trump epitomizes the cardboard movie ‘serial killer’ we all fear, yet, on a deeper level, admire. Real ones sometimes get away with it forever; 150 years later, we still can’t be sure who Jack the Ripper was, or the Zodiac Killer. You can’t help but respect that cleverness on some level. Sometimes, the bad guy wins. Trump appeals to the reptilian corner of the psyche because he’s meaner than anyone else. He’s not afraid to use force, violence, or even torture  to accomplish his goals, and his followers revel in watching him eviscerate those they hate, driven further by algorithms. Meanwhile, their brothers and sisters and ‘thems’ on the left have enjoyed torturing anyone who runs afoul of the house extremism, mostly by daring to express original, critical, questioning thoughts. They destroy, too. Trump’s core supporters knew he was no Rhodes scholar; many voted for him because they hoped he’d punish those they’d come to define as Everything Wrong With America. Payback’s gonna be a bitch, bitches. I don’t look forward to it. Some voted for Trump out of desperation for something different, others because they were little different from him. Hillary Clinton was right about the basket for the almost inarguably worst candidate America had to offer. He didn’t muscle his way in like most wannabe dictators; he was chosen by the people, who knew of his criminal legacy, that he was a convicted felon, who tried to steal an election, that he was a compulsive liar, a serial cheater, a confessed sexual predator, who refused to stop an insurrection, and who associated with a notorious pedophile. I feel no pity for these voters who are now whining about an unstable economy and spiralling food and gas prices and wars they didn’t vote for. Yes they fucking did. But I also have zero fucks to give for the deplorables on my own side. Progressives, Epsteinmania, and what they ignored Epsteinmania conveniently distracts stupid progressives from a presidential moral crime far more detrimental to the entire republic than Epstein’s rich-boy yen for very young women. Progressives blew it—as they are wont to do—with the scandal they could have plausibly used to bring down Trump for good. It flew mostly under the radar, though, because there were no glamorous islands, wayward penises or teenage titties on display: The highly classified, stolen documents found in the potty at Mar-A-Lago. Trump appointee Judge Aileen Cannon has ‘permanently blocked’ Jack Smith’s probe of the highly sensitive documents at Trump’s Florida home. This has, as usual, flown over stupid progressive heads, who have yet to figure out that they are not going to bring down Trump via his wayward toadstool. There were no obsessive lamentations on social media about this. Of course, ‘permanent’ is such an impermanent word in Washington. If American progressives and the rest of the world— all of   whom have skin in this game if that information is weaponized against any of us, wielded or provided by someone who was no longer authorized to have it—for eyes who were NEVER authorized to see it— had spent as much time demanding the release of the Jack Smith probe as they have the Epstein Files, America might be a different country today. Let’s remember, out of all the politicians from both parties caught with classified documents at home, all complied with requests to return them except Trump: He lied, of course, about having them, leading to a raid on the premises to retrieve them. Here’s what Harris herself demanded: Kamala Harris accuses Trump of ‘gaslighting America’ on Epstein: ‘Release the files!” Oops, sorry, I guess she wasn’t paying attention, either. Harris got all legalistic when  she spoke of the classified documents case, framing it as evidence Trump believes he’s ‘above the ‘law’ and should be held to the same standards as everyone else. Duhhh. No moral outrage there. Just legalism, when she’s not talking about his titty-mongering friend. Yeah, that was really going out on a limb, Kammy. She focused on unemotional legal precedent yet again when Aileen Cannon dismissed the documents case last summer, ruling Jack Smith’s appointment as ‘unconstitutional’. Harris lamented, instead, the now-MIA guardrails. No yelling on a podcast about how Trump could have shared his highly classified information with his boycrush Vladimir Putin or people who’d be happy to pass it on to Islamofascist terrorists. The files included nuclear secrets; we know there was correspondence between Trump and his other boyfriend Kim Jong-Un. We don’t know much else except that it was some of the most sensitive intelligence the United States possesses. We truly have no fucking clue how much danger we might be in because we’re too obsessed with dick. Joe Biden and Mike Pence were caught with top-secret documents as well, but both were considered less sensitive. Troubling, still, especially since the former was going senile. I don’t suspect Biden or Pence of ever having actively colluded with our enemies against America, but the completely indefensible Trump kept those documents stacked in his bathroom, and lying about it makes me wonder whether we might have to start sticking kiddie porn in top secret documents to get progressives to pay attention when they disappear for awhile. It’s no wonder Biden revoked Trump’s right to Presidential Daily Briefs, unprecedented by any previous President. He cited Trump’s erratic behavior and his connection to the January 6th proceedings. I don’t know whether Biden missed the Mar-A-Lago boat along with seemingly every other progressive in America, but I would have cited the FBI seizures first. Harris, the Regressive Left, and the Party of Obedience Harris embodies Stupidity more than Cruelty, but lacks not the latter. She’s no Trumpian villain, but instead represents the vacuous intentional stupidity and moral vacuum of what passes for ‘progressivism’. Leaning into ‘The Brat’ and surrounding herself with woke, mostly female cheerleaders, Kamala Harris was an appointed post turtle, and Democrats obediently bent the knee. Harris’s obvious weakness was why so many of us didn’t vote for her. Wokeism is predicated entirely on victimhood identity and an eternal search for ‘disadvantage’ status. America’s greatest threats, before the election, were Putin and Xinpeng; there was no way this little girlie-girl who hid out during most of her vice-presidency at the White House was going to stand up to them. Harris’s wokeness looked opportunistic and performative, and  s he stated her support for many deplorable ideas because the Mean Girls wouldn’t like her if she didn’t. I chose Neither in the 2024 election to avoid voting for cruelty and stupidity. The Regressive Left is every bit as capable, handed enough power, of turning America into an authoritarian snakepit, which is why I approach the 2026 midterms apathetically. Misogynists, fauxminists, racists, trans-nazis, antisemites, and the Islamofascist Regressive Left define the cruel and stupid that Harris embraced. Choose her for 2028, and I will vote Neither again. I want a better Democratic candidate than the last two. My standards are high. A challenge for YOU I’m fuzzier on what Democrats’ Amerithoritarian Hell would look like, but I know I would hate it as much as I already hate MAGAvision. Having just read Tim Miller’s Why We Did It: A Travelogue from the Republican Road To Hell , he emphasizes over and over how Republicans reacted to the first Trump term (the book came out before 2024) much the same way the rest of America did: With horror, shock and fear. They’ve been, however, much quieter about their unease. They mouth loyal pieties in public but behind the scenes they sound just like us: WTF? How could this have happened? How could Americans have been this stupid? Stupid, indeed. And cruel. There’s been little soul-searching since then, Miller says. To which I would add: And that goes for the Democrats and their cruels and stupids, too. We Normies have to speak out more. We have to be willing to shed our stupider, crueller brethren who shouldn’t be our friends if we can’t say Israel has the right to exist  without risking social blackballing. Good-bye. Good riddance. I challenge you all to pick a topic, issue, ideal, or value from your side  of American politics that you disagree with—stupid or cruel, or both—and publicly refute it. Just one. It doesn’t have to be a big idea, just something that sends a message to your partisan friends— I don’t support this. I challenge it. I question. Maybe even, I’ve just asked the glaringly obvious question you won’t. Go ahead. Choose one. Write it in the comments. Better yet, write a Substack about it! And then say it publicly in front of people you know will object. I dare you. Don’t be a pussy like Lindsay Graham:

The good, the bad, and the guys who just need to try a little harder ‘Ridiculously overmuscled man’ AI image request generated by Poe, because even the Hulk wasn’t he-man enough for this! I need a hero, I’m holding out for a hero ‘Til the morning light He’s gotta be sure And it’s gotta be soon And he’s gotta be larger than life (Larger than life!) -Bonnie Tyler, I Need A Hero I wrote recently about manipulative men and the younger women easily played. Modern feminism—two waves past my own—has often failed at teaching younger females how to navigate the vagaries of dating and mating. A more power-centered feminism emphasizing personal agency attempts to counteract the sabotaging message of self-imposed victimhood— if the message reaches the vulnerable. And if the vulnerable are amenable to the message—which they aren’t always. For someone who never had a date in high school until a week before graduation, I nevertheless managed to avoid a lot of the potholes other young girls didn’t when I started dating in college. It helped that I wasn’t desperate for male attention. I graduated with a keen nose for lower-quality males based on my high school observations—the ‘burnouts’, the self-impressed jocks, the bullies, the jackasses—and avoided them. I observed that guys from working-class or lower-class families treated girls less respectfully than middle-class boys. I wanted a ‘nice guy’, although he needed to be cute. Some of this development in good taste I can lay at the feet of my late mother. The rest I figured out on my own. “How?” My first encounter with misogyny came from the little boy next door. Billy possessed a weird phobia about girls I found mystifying. Sometimes he played nice with me and sometimes not. I asked my mother why little boys hated girls and she couldn't answer. That's just the way they are, I think she said. It seemed pretty stupid. In grade school, I learned to recognize the 'nice' boys who didn't hate girls versus the little jerks. (A few of the 'nice' boys I now suspect were gay, although I had no concept of that at the time.) In middle and high school I began to connect hypermasculinity to misogyny. In college I connected homophobia to a hatred of women. Homophobia became a red flag for identifying the misogynist male, who got the cold shoulder. As I entered the dating scene in college, I found I attracted mostly ‘nice’ boys, and they were attracted to me. The macho he-men didn’t have much interest in me, nor I them. It seemed, I thought, as though they could tell I wouldn’t put up with any hairy-chested strongman bullshit. Hyper-masculine men, like the characters in the-then Golden Age of action heroes, were very sexy, but I recognized real he-men were Bad News. I did notice that hyper-masculinity worked very well, nevertheless, on other women, and I privately felt sorry for them. I figured they must be getting abused or mistreated. But what about the good ones? What I know now that I didn’t then is that not all hyper -masculine guys are guilty of toxic masculinity. Nor do they deserve the hatefest they get from certain ‘progressive’ feminists. Sometimes the biggest badasses are the nicest guys. Years ago, when I worked downtown, I had to take the streetcar to work. At Spadina station, a group of kids clustered every morning who seemed, for lack of a better word, developmentally disabled. One particular large, heavily muscled, tattooed, pierced transportation worker looking like a bouncer at the toughest nightclub in Toronto, treated the children with genuine friendliness, and knew their names, and talked to them while we waited for the streetcar. I felt envious of his wife. She had found a good one. ‘Hyper-masculinity’ must be approached with caution. And one mustn’t believe the movie fantasy, which is this: Action movie characters, hyper-masculine AF, always ‘nice’ guys, heroic types, often very violent, but never toward women. They consistently play The Protector. In reality, it’s much harder in Real Life to prevent emotional violent spillover. Some men can do it, but many can’t—like police officers and military men , both of whom offer a higher risk of domestic violence. For many women, regular masculinity is just fine, and safer. Hyper-masculinity need not be demonized, even as we recognize the capacity for violence. For men who consciously adopt that persona, they need to understand that it is, on its face, threatening to the more canny women. Women who consciously avoid abuse will be naturally wary of them, and if they aren’t looking for women who accept abusive behavior , they’ll need to exhibit patience and to prove themselves non-abusive first. But what about the less masculine man? Taylor Swift and the transgender fish ‘Romantasy’’ is a primarily female-focused fiction genre—a romance/fantasy mashup. According to Bill Maher , it’s fiction built around women falling in love with and having passionate sex with vampires, werewolves, fairies (or ‘fae’ as they’re called), demons, elves, even a Minotaur. Anything but human males. Maher blames it on the lack of masculinity in modern males, and says Taylor Swift ‘epitomizes the entire journey women have been going through’. He’s serious. He notes that until she landed Travis Kelce, a six-foot-five smokin’ hot football player from Ohio, Swift “…dated a procession of skinny, fay, gay-adjacent, meek, porcelain doll shy guy twink-like tortured poet metrosexuals in America and Europe,” and finishes, “but the second she got some old-school wood from the heartland, it was game over.” Kelce doesn’t do it for me, but I get why Swift and other women fancy him. He’s reputed to be a genuinely nice guy, described as generous, fun-loving, charismatic, supportive of the family, and authentic, a trait sorely lacking anywhere anymore, especially on the left where one is taught that whatever you are, you should be ashamed of yourself. Kelce is also a generous philanthropist, including a foundation he created called Eighty-Seven & Running, for ‘empowering disadvantaged youth’. He established a Robotics Lab at a Missouri-based non-profit, and gave money to some Ohio school foundations to help them weather the COVID-19 pandemic. He’s even paid for repairs to a senior former athlete’s home. Kelce advocates for social justice, calling for less homophobia in American football, and support for Black Lives Matter. All told, he seems an all-around good guy. He’s not perfect but criticism of him seems pedestrian, like his admittedly declining abilities in football, but at 36, that’s not surprising. He’s got a few old tweets he probably regrets, but most of the criticism is aimed at occasional disrespect (we’re all guilty of that), being a ‘clout chaser’ (maybe, or maybe just critical jealousy), and unprofessional behavior like making obscene gestures or shoving a teammate during a game. No critical sexual assaults alleged, bitter ex-wives spilling it to the NY Post, or Surprise Babies in his family tree. No mention in the Epstein Files! Maher suggested a point he didn’t explore: Travis Kelce is a manly man and what would seem to be a healthy mix of the best of both liberal and conservative values: He’s gay-supportive, wants to marry and start a family and he wants to make a positive difference in others’ lives. I don’t know if they’ll be happy together—she’s a billionaire and he hasn’t even cracked $100 million in net worth yet. That kinds of pressure can break the strongest, most loving partnerships. Or, the pair could turn out to be like Pat Benatar and Neil Geraldo, still together 44 years later. Maher was perhaps a bit harsh in his assessment of modern masculinity, or lack thereof. There is some evidence, not yet conclusive, that synthetic hormones in the water may be feminizing human males. What is established is that it’s definitely feminizing male fish , producing ‘intersex’ specimens who produce female eggs inside the testes, and these are fish that aren’t hermaphrodites. Other effects include reduced sperm count and resulting population declines. One of the primary culprits is suspected to be synthetic estrogens, originating in birth control pills and HRT replacements, that aren’t completely removed by wastewater treatment, as are plant-based estrogenic sources as well. There’s an interesting video making the case that male celebrities looked much older and more masculine in previous decades than today. It’s from the NY Post, not the greatest source ever, but not the worst either, and it makes a provocative case. What it all comes down to Travis Kelce strikes me as a good model for the new Modern Masculine Male - if you can look beyond his less important manly looks and towering height. I honestly don’t think that matters quite as much as many think. I’m a ‘sapiophile’ myself; I’m drawn to very smart men, and I don’t care if they’re short. ( Many other women don’t, either .) I discovered my sapiophilia in high school, with crushes on some of the brightest students, not that I got anywhere with any of them. One turned out to be gay. Most were too shy to deal with girls even if they weren’t. But many of us also value a man who’s strong but not abusive. It’s a spectrum. The ‘porcelain doll shy guy twink-like tortured poet metrosexuals’ are on the low end, with the Highlander Kurgan on the other end. The best men are somewhere in the middle. I like to be hopeful, and with the extended end of wokeness, I’d like to see normal, decent men ‘come out of the closet’, ar ar, and challenge the crazed harpies bathing in male tears. They’ll have plenty of support from women too. I run into many like myself, fans of neither patriarchy nor Patriarchy Derangement Syndrome. I listened to Rafaela Siewert’s interview with neuroscientist and sex researcher Debra Soh on The Free Press, where Soh discussed how hypermasculine men are often temporary flings for women, but not someone you necessarily bring home to Mother. I mourn the loss of normal, manspreading, chest-exposing, at least reasonably-groomed masculinity fraught with sexual tension and playful romantic banter, a prelude of possible things to come while getting to know someone. I miss guys who know how to flirt. It’s one cock fight where Canada actually led the United States. When I left in 2005, American single guys were still fairly, you know, average-masculine—enough to pique one’s hormones. After I moved to Toronto, I found a distinct lack of masculinity in the native locals. Today, even the immigrants are beaten into submission by over-the-top #MeTooism and, although I can no longer speak from personal experience, from what I’ve read, so are American men. It’s not all men’s fault, though. The manosphere exists in a symbiotic relationship with toxic feminism. Which means women have to change too, and I’ve spilled plenty of electrons writing about that for the last several years. I reiterate: You don’t need to be Travis Kelce or a fireman charging into a burning World Trade Center to be a Real Man. Heroes come in all forms, not just male, but also female and four-footed furry. Even children can be true heroes. Heroism doesn’t always require big muscles. One of the greatest historical heroes is Vince Coleman, the man who saved 300 lives in 1917 during the Halifax Explosion by bravely staying at his telegraph post warning an incoming train that a ship in the harbor was about to explode—knowing by staying he was surely to die. You don’t have to be a man to be that heroic, but it helps. The desire to protect the weak is ingrained in almost all of them, even if some fall tragically short. Men possess a unique testosterone-driven courage many women don’t. We chickie-boos freeze , even when we have the ability to protect ourselves. Ask yourself: Would you willingly leave your family forever to save 300 strangers’ lives the way Vince Coleman did? Now that’s a man who had courage we only aspire to, and the strength to stay in place until the train stopped. I’d like to think I would have, but I know: I’m not even close to being the man Vince Coleman was. Random Stuff Men Say That Make Me Go, “WTF, Feminists?” Masculinism 2.0: What Would A Positive, Healthy, New Men’s Movement Look Like? Bears vs. Strange Men: Who Would You Rather Meet In The Woods? Did you like this post? Do you want to see more? I lean left of center, but not so far my brains fall out. Subscribe to my Substack newsletter  Grow Some Labia  so you never miss a damn thing! There are also Substack  and Spotify  podcasts of more recent articles!

"GROW A PAIR" That's what we say to men when we think they're acting weak. "Grow some balls!" So what do we say when women are acting weak? We can't very well tell them to grow some balls. Women can't, of course! Women need to 'grow some labia'! They're the parts of the vagina that would have become the scrotum for the balls had she been born a male instead (and since she didn't, what would have been her balls are her ovaries). But I doubt you came here for a female anatomy lesson. It's time for us to grow some labia and woman up, show more strength, challenge ourselves more. Time to take more charge and responsibility for our lives, and spend less time blaming 'The Patriarchy' or systemic sexism. Those things exist, for sure, but at some point we've got to recognize the buck stops with the woman in the mirror and we need to claim our power (or reclaim it if we gave it away somehow!) So it's time for women everywhere to GROW SOME LABIA! I've written a few blog posts about how we can do exactly that and reclaim our power! Feminism The differences between victim feminism, which sees women as chronically aggrieved and victimized by men and 'The Patriarchy', and power feminism, which is more focused on one's self, achieving and claiming personal power and using it for the betterment of others. Dec 21, 2024 The Transfolk Who Really Do Need Our Support The experience of 'The Bearded Lesbian' reminds us some folks really do need to transition; and how LGBTQ can fail them I began following... Dec 5, 2024 American Feminists Don't Need A 4B Movement The South Korean feminism project will be dead in the water. Like it or not, we need men, and they need us. Maybe we just need to reform... Nov 24, 2024 Emma Watson, Emma Watson, Wherefore Art Thou, Emma Watson? The foxy fauxminist has gone missing in recent years. No movies. No fauxminist outbursts. Not even any trans love tweeted. I... Nov 17, 2024 Progressive Democrats Hate Women More Than The Right. Especially Feminists. Right-wing misogyny isn't How The Left Was Lost. It was women's, the primary administrators and executors of patriarchy and misogyny. The... Oct 12, 2024 A Frenchwoman Is Dead Serious About Holding ALL Her Rapists Accountable The Gisele Pelicot case highlights just how frighteningly high is the number of 'normal' men who have a penchant for, and might be... Sep 14, 2024 Let's Have A Grownup Talk About Privilege - With Curiosity Rather Than Outrage It's real. It's worth exploring even for the UnWoke. Its purpose is to open our own eyes rather than beat up others (and ourselves) over... Feminism Substack Subscribe to my FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER for all my latest on power feminism, reclaiming your power, and the ongoing culture wars. Visit Substack >> Subscribe to my FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER

WELCOME TO MY WEBSITE ABOUT POWER Big Girls Don't Blame The Patriarchy Explore The Blog LABIA POWER! About Me Grow Some Labia! is written by a liberal, feminist writer and social justice critic who teaches women and others how to reclaim their power and avoid partner abuse. She also candidly critiques far-left, progressive/woke/ social justice extremism. It's a place for people who lean left or right, but not so far their brains fall out. GSL's work can be found here and on Substack, Quora. And maybe a few other places. About Me The Latest From My Labia Power! Blog 5 days ago Daniel Penny: The Hero That Wasn't "He scared the living daylights out of everybody." The woke left damns Daniel Penny for trying to save others from a clearly disturbed... Jan 4 We Have To Think About Moderating X, Bluesky And Other Social Media The anoymous psychos who call for others' assassinations are a direct threat to democracy and public safety. Threats are NOT free speech.... Jan 1 Here Comes The 'Woke Right' And It Looks A Helluva Lot Like The Woke Left Brand-new management, same as the last! But the bipartisan UnWoke have the recent accumulated observation to help call out the... Dec 25, 2024 Roman Holiday - A Christmas Story Oh no! Not another Messiah! CC0 public domain Just what we need. Another bloody Messiah. The name’s Flatulous. I’m a Roman soldier in... Dec 21, 2024 The Transfolk Who Really Do Need Our Support The experience of 'The Bearded Lesbian' reminds us some folks really do need to transition; and how LGBTQ can fail them I began following... Dec 14, 2024 Is There Any Real Joy In Learning Anymore? Can students even experience learning something intriguing or unexpected? Or are they only told what to think? "Just kill me now!"... Explore The Blog DON'T BE THE VICTIM Take back your power. NOW. It started with abused women who didn't know they could say No to abuse. It morphed into taking back your power from political bullies and haters, including 'social justice warriors'. Don't Be The Victim GROW SOME LABIA "Grow a pair!" That's what we say to men when we think they're acting weak. "Grow some balls!" So what do we say when women are acting weak? We can't very well tell them to grow some balls. Women can't, of course! Women need to 'grow some labia'! Grow Some Labia I also take on the crazies from the right and the left. Subscribe to my FREE SUBSTACK NEWSLETTER

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